WWYD - Long Lost Friend,Found

cher1980

a very good friend of mine throughout middle, highschool and college, kinda disappeared after college.  She had a baby, she's a single mom, and went away to live w/ her dad - long story short, we lost touch.....she just had alot of stuff going on and she got away.Well one of my BM found her on facebook and she knows how close we used to be so she friend'd her and told her that im getting married and gave her my email..she emailed me and we're back in touch...she keeps apologizing that she left, but back now and wish she was around to see me get married..she met mike when we 1st started going out 10yrs ago...So my next quesiton - do i invite her? I have room, so its not about that but some of my friends are saying no- just keep in touch after the wedding and see how long she sticks around for...i just feel bad and would have loved for her to be there...wwyd?

soontobemrsdavis

knowing me i would have invited her. I was searching for my godsister to invite her but couldnt find her on fb or myspace.If you have the space go for it. If she disappears again oh well..it wouldnt be a big loss bc she has done it before

I <3 Seabass

If you have the rooman and it's in the budget I don't think it would be a problem to invite her.

mbcdefg

I would invite her. It's not the same as asking her to be a bridesmaid or something - you'll have very little interaction with her on the wedding day, so even if you're not best buddies again it won't ruin your evening.

melissa82

It sounds like she is fishing for an invite.

cvl105

I would invite her.  I think it's a good stepping stone for fixing/rejuvinating your relationship.  If for some reason you don't become close again after the wedding, who cares if she was at your wedding, even though you're not close anymore.  But even more importantly, if you do gain back that awesome friendship, how special it will be that she was there, and you'd probably regret not having her there if you don't invite her, if that's the case.

cher1980

right and ill know that she was there....i think im going to...its really nice to have those old friends at your wedding - they are the ones who trully know you....

DiorAndKisses

I'd probably invite her...but be very careful you don't sit her anywhere she may not feel welcomed.

cateyes624

I would, especially since you have the room and she was a good friend.

cher1980

she didnt ask to be invited - this is all me - she just said she would have loved to see us get married and that we will get together after im back from the honeymoon....so this is all me, seeing if i should extend an invite to her

cher1980

good point chelsea...if things go back to how it was - at least she was there to share it w/ me - if not, oh wellId sit her w/ my friend who found her on facebook - there are single girls at that table who all went to HS together and know her...FI just texted and said no dont invite - she left you high and dry and i was nothing but a good friend to herlol this is nuts

caketime

Think of it this way how will you feel in a year or 5 years if she is in your life and wasn't there or if she is not in your life and was there?  Personally I would like knowing I gave it one more shot and invited her.

cher1980

ok i think im gonna just extend the invite and who knows its in 2 weeks so she may not be able to make it...idk....but yea, id feel better knowing that i extended, she will hopefully come, and in a year or so, if we are still friends and in touch, id be glad i shared that time w/ her....thanks ladies very much!

alliecarrie41

 she could be fishing for an invite like melissa said... i wouldn't be obligated to invite her at all.  however, like mbcdefghij said it's not like asking a BM or anything, it's just another guest (or guest+1).  you answered your own question by saying you'd love for her to be there.  then invite her.