It's my par-ty and I'll kiss if I want to...

DiorAndKisses

I know that my guests are there to celebrate with us...and I do love them...butReally?  I could do without the glass clinking and bell ringing.  I don't want to drop what I'm doing, especially if "what I'm doing" is eating a meal we Knotties know was NOT cheap , to kiss each time the noise starts.  Some people may be looking forward to this and love it...but not FI and not me!Is there any way to deter this?  If not, ehhh...it won't spoil the day.  But maybe there's an easy fix for this that this inexperienced Newbie just hasn't come across yet.  ?? (fingers crossed)    Thanks, ladies!

irishchik15712

FI's cousin put a spin on hers to make it more fun... they gave a list of married couples at the reception and the DJ would name a couple every once in awhile. That couple had to stand up and kiss and the bride and groom had to reenact it. I thought it was cute and not the typical clinking of the glass. But if you want to not do anything at all, maybe you could ask the DJ to make a little announcement in the beginning of the night to please not do anything like that? Or maybe you could tell each set of parents to politely spread the word to guests not to do it or keep it to a minimum.

kle0113

I also cannot stand this, but I have to say that I only remember it once at my wedding and it was at the very beginning.  After that I never heard it again and that could possibly be because I did not see MH practicly the whole night.  LOL!!!  He is not a dancer and I was on the floor the whole night he was at the bar! 

kpeteley

I think the whole thing is sweet, I don't think there's another time in your life where people will make a special effort to see you and fi kiss, but. . I do like the idea about dj selecting couples name - I just wouldn't want to re-enact. 

DiorAndKisses

Good point!  lol  I'll just keep FI away from me.  hahaha  That'll be us, too, since I'm always dancing and he's always BSing at the bar when we go out together.

mbcdefg

I would just do it once and then ignore it from then on. I haven't personally seen it done at many weddings, and even then it's maybe once or twice at all in the night. Some people on other boards have their guests play games or sing songs or ring bells, but to me that's even MORE annoying than glass clinking.

uppereastgirl

I can completely understand why you would be worried about that-- I HATE it.  But nobody did it at our wedding.  Maybe they knew I wouldn't react well?

uppereastgirl

oh, and as a guest, if anyone ever tried to get me and my husband to kiss I would be horrified, horrified, horrified.  I would not do that because you don't want to alienate/piss off guests who aren't into that.

hollyberry88

You could do what my father did at his and my mom's wedding....after the first couple kisses with my mom he started by going around and kissing the wedding party.  Ladies first, of course.  They bell ringing and clinking of glasses stopped when he started to kiss the groomsmen :-)

misskris927

I only remember this happening ONCE at our wedding lol. I think these days people don't do it as much. If it does start to happen a lot, just start ignoring it or make an announcement like the pp post said.

teamAandE

Don't provide bells first off. Then NO ONE did this at my wedding. People were too busy dancing. During dinner we were up talking to people so there wasn't an opportunity to do so. I think that DJ idea is not ideal. I would NEVER want to do that at someone else's wedding. mortifying.

Maddysmommy1214

I don't like it either. It only happened once at our wedding and Dana had to come over and tell me because I didn't even hear it lolNo one did it after that

jaimelody

Oh I think it's sweet too. People hardly ever want to see other people kiss and this is the exception. They are just happy for you. I think someone here did something where the guests had to sing a song with the word love? I think it was Veena. I can't remember exactly, but it was cute when I heard what she was doing.

njbrowneyedgrl74

My family kept "making" us kiss--really we could have cared less.  We love kissing each other--there was no need to make us do it.  Besides my family was so drunk and having such a good time that we didn't want to stop the hilarity--they were yelling my new name across the room(Mike and I just laughed harder and kissed more).Lisa Beth

LarissaAnn

I hate it too. I think it only happened twice during our wedding, and I was so busy having fun someone had to point it out to me both times. I think when people saw that we weren't really responding they stopped. My sis' friends knew not to do it at all; they know her. I think one person might've tried it, and she and her husband just outright ignored it and it didn't happen again.

DiorAndKisses

I don't think I'd have the DJ say anything...but you're right, the fact that my friends and fam know I'm not so into it will probably prevent it from catching too often at our reception.  And if it does, it won't throw a wrench in my night by any means...it's just something I don't really like...ya know...like onions in my salad.  Just a personal pref.  lol  Maybe it's just the weddings I've been to...but I've seen it get a little carried away.  I never participate in the clanging, by the way. 

brad1431

I hate it, I hope they just do it once and get it over with and that's it, I dont want it to be all night long

soontobemrsdavis

i think if you kiss on your own then people wont feel the need to do itI was surprised that it didnt happen at all..but then i realized they really didnt have to bc we pretty much smooched enough without it..lol