POLL: What did you call your in-laws when you were engaged?

rutgersgirl82

How did/do you refer to your in-laws when you were engaged? After we got engaged I started calling my future in-laws by mom and dad (although it's taking some getting used to - and I don't do it every time). Before we were engaged I called them Mr & Mrs X

mrs.spunky1508

Mr. and Mrs. their last name. Now that I'm married I am starting to venture over to the mom & dad side - but only on birthday & holiday cards and when I am referring to them, never actually to them. I try not to call them anything directly. Yes, I know this is strange, but I have a mom & dad and my H does the same with my parents.

jen629

nothing really if I have to address her I call her by her first name though

I <3 Seabass

As of now I don't call them anything.

grace_ann

I use their first names because they told me to otherwise it would have been Mr. and Mrs.

kewltif

I really don't call them anything. I guess I've used their first name more than anything else. DH calls my parents mom and dad which is kind of weird to me.

kle0113

I have always called my in-laws by their first names.  MH has also always called my parents by their first names.  I can't call anyone else mom and dad other then my parents.  I know this will cause another debate, but that is just how I fell. 

cher1980

same as jen - i dont call them anything but when i do its their 1st name....

cvl105

their first names

caketime

When I call them anything it's Mr. and Mrs. I will not now nor ever call them mom & dad.

misskris927

same as pp- I don't usually came them anything. But if I do, it's always by their first name

Angie550

I try to avoid situations where I have to address them, but sometimes I call them grandma and grandpa cause we have dogs who are like our kids - their grandpups.  FI does the same with my mom.  I know...we are crazy dog people, I am ok with it.

brad1431

dad

teamAandE

we both call each others parents by their first names

brad1431

before we were engaged I called him dad sometimes, other times I avoided a name.  I didnt feel right calling him Mr. X, that is what the mailman calls him And I couldn't call him by his first name, that is just rude, you have to respect the generation gap.

Lola Minnie

Same as KLE! (love your siggy btw)

Jaytee501

MH has always called my mother by her first name. When I met MIL, she told me to call her by her first name (I'm in my 30's but still can't address friends' parents, etc. by their first names!); not being comfortable doing that, I didn't call her anything.I've always called his dad "Mr. S," even now that we're married.MIL has told me to call them "Mom & Dad" but I will not. At least her husband seems to understand it's not a matter of not caring for or respecting them. They're not Mom & Dad to me.  

kle0113

Thanks Lola Marie!  Here we go with the generation gap thing again!  I get it we are all just rude for calling our in laws by their first name. 

ddelo23

I never (in 4 years) addressed her.  I just start speaking, and say what I have to.  If referring to her to anyone else, I say, "Terrell's mom"

Just Jen

mom: first namedad: nothing so far, but probably first name

neilly18

I call them Mom & Dad when writing out cards etc. Try not to have to address them as anything in person but if I have to it will be Mom & Dad.  I agree they are not my Mom & Dad (and trust me are nothing like my parents) but just by calling them that I don't feel like it replaces my parents place in my life by any stretch of the imagination.  I have jokingly called close friends parents Mom & Dad over the years.  My friend's kids call me Aunt Kathy and I'm not their Aunt. Last Name or First Name just seems to impersonal to me.  I want us all to be family and that to me = Mom + Dad. 

Laurms15

I'm glad I'm not the only one who avoids calling her anything. She has started to sign cards "mom g" lately and she used to sign them with her first name. I write her cards to Mrs. Lastname. (his dad passed away) I don't know what I will do after the wedding.

brad1431

I dont get the whole I wont call them mom or dad cause they arent my mom and dad.  They cant replace my mom and dadMy FI does this.  No one is trying to replace anyone.  Why by calling them mom and dad do people think that is somehow replacing their parents or disrespecting or downgrading their parents.  I dont get that part.

kle0113

This is what my mom said to MH - I am not your mom you already have one call me by my name.  Everyone is different I am not saying that they take anything away from my parents all I am saying is that I don't believe in calling anyone else Mom and Dad other then my own parents.  They are the ones who raised me and I think it can be disrespectful to them.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and that is mine. 

CM1206

I tried calling them by their first names and got yelled at. I call them Mr. and Mrs. M

DandT1206

first names.... but I mostly call his mom "Fimil" (FMIL) and she called me "Fiddle" (FDIL)... guess we'll go back to first names once we're married!

yankees320

I call his mom by her first name, and have not called his dad anything in over 5 years.

neilly18

CM  -- they yelled at you for calling them by their first names?  If that was the case for me I could think up a whole bunch of names  ( I aplogize if this offends you)

velveena

Mom but I call a lot of people's parents "Mom & Dad" lol. 

melissa82

As of right now, I call them nothing. If I have do, I'll do Mr. and Mrs. Sometimes they sign cards Mom and Dad and sometimes with their first names.I can't see myself really ever calling them mom and dad. I have only one mother and one father. Calling someone grandma, aunt, etc. is a little different to me because you can always have more than one of those.

mrs.spunky1508

Because while my IL's are nice, loving, generous, honest people, I do not love them - nor could love them - the way I love my parents. If my ILs were to die tomorrow, I would be sad, but if my parents died tomorrow I would be overcome with grief to the point of not being able to function.