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You people and your RSVPs...

Just JenJust Jen
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in New Jersey
... are freaking me out!I'm now wondering if we should just invite all the B-list from the get-go. We're inviting 226 as of now, have 250 if we include all the Bs. But the room holds 210 max. And we have a 150-person minimum. It's like a big logic puzzle with no right answer. Or maybe it's algebra, in which case, I'm screwed ... =)
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Re: You people and your RSVPs...

  • erikag23erikag23
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    edited December 2011
    you are getting married in april. you are totally jumping the gun and freakin out over something you have no control over. chill and deal with it when the time gets closer.
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  • Just JenJust Jen
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    edited December 2011
    I know, I know. You're right. I suffer from "analysis paralysis." If there is overanalyzing to be done, I shall do it. It's usually cured by wine.
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  • caketimecaketime
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Yup, agree with Erika.  By the time you are ready to send them out you may have changed it 10 times.  Also, never invite more than a room can hold.  What will you do if 220 show up?  If anything send out the a-list a week or so earlier than you would have.
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  • Angie550Angie550 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    haha Jen...I have that same disorder.  I bring up the most random things and my FI is like "Are you serious, you are totally overthinking this?"  My mom is the only one that will entertain me when I get into one of my episodes :)
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  • neilly18neilly18
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    The one thing I learned from invites is don't send them out counting on certain people as No's.  We invited 221 - we could have afforded all 221, the room would have been at Max capacity but we would have done it.  I had a lot of OOT guests and figured some would be "nos" they ALL said yes.  My local friends mostly have decided not to bring guests which accounted for maybe 1/3 of our nos all more.  In the end I though I would end up with 150 (which we did) but the point is the mix is so completely different than what we thought and if people have decided to bring a guest we would have been closer to 180-190.
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011
    I have alot of OOT guests...so don't be scared by my issues!
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Just keep in mind that most of the time the number places give you as the "max" for the room is higher than what is comfortable/looks good. Just one example that comes to mind is mbcefg said the Tides downstairs room maxes out at 160. I went to the wedding there with 140 and I wouldn't want to see ANY more people in that room. Other Tides brides have advised less than that. Point being, I wouldn't invite your whole list.
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  • cher1980cher1980
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    and its not the case all the time...i mailed 130 invites and i had 120 yes's and fortunatly got them all back in time...so dont worry...just yet!
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  • Just JenJust Jen
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    edited December 2011
    That's the thing ... I vacillate from worrying about too many people saying yes, to not enough people saying yes.We'll stick with our 226 for now. We  suspect that several of our friends will not be bringing a guest, and we have a few invites for older out-of-town relatives who we doubt will be able to make the trip. So I think we should be OK with the 210, but  we'll cross our fingers until April.But that doesn't mean I won't worry about it ... ;-)
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