Rehearsal Invite?'s

cherylanddan0706

Few Questions 1-FI has 3 out of 6 siblings that are in the wedding, only 1 of them is married, the others have significant others they have been dating for a while. (age range is 26-18 of the ones not married).  Do I invite the so’s of the other siblings? (They are all invited to the wedding) 2-5 of the siblings all live at home, do I send individual invites? 3-How do I word the invite (I am doing it on Vista) typically is just “Date, Time, Place” do I have to put both places (the venue and the restaurant). So its like this (it’s a lunch on a Sunday because of schedules and holidays) Rehearsal at 1:00 pm at Venue Lunch at 2:00 pm at Restaurant (two different locations) TIA! (Sorry if the font is screwed up to long to type on bb had to copy from email)

cher1980

i would invite the sig others...as for place, just put wherever you are meeting 1st - im sure they will know to follow you to lunch

cher1980

you can even add - lunch immediately following at _____

Kvarrone

What's your email? I can send you our invite for you to see =)Everyone was invited to the RD with a date...

caketime

I'd invite the SO's if you can swing it.Are all 5 siblings getting an individual wedding invitation?  If so, then yes for the RD if not then plop them all on one  invite.I like the idea cher had of lunch to follow at CB's

cherylanddan0706

Browneyedgrrl80 (at) aol kristen! I kinda knew I should invite and guest damn things getting expensive lol

uppereastgirl

1.  I would invite all significant others2.  His poor parents-- that's a very full nest!   Um... I personally would send each an invitation (with the name of the guests so they know they're invited).  Otherwise, that's a lot of people under one invitation. 3.  We just put the invitation to the dinner on the invitation.  I think that's typical.  We sent everyone an email with where to be and when (for rehearsal and wedding day) closer to the wedding.

cherylanddan0706

Lol uppereast don't feel bad well at least for his mom lol

DS0305

In my opinion, I don't think you need to invite SO's.  But I guess maybe since it's his siblings, maybe it would be nice.  I'm most likely not inviting the bridal party's SO's to the rehearsal dinner since I figure they might feel awkward. I'm super tacky and see nothing wrong with putting all on one invite haha.  We had a couple situations where we lumped some people onto one invite just to save money.

neilly18

We actually did not send out actual invitations to the RD (is this completely tasteless) since for us it is just the wedding party, our parents and my aunt and uncle.  We did it by word of mouth, but did invite the spouses of the wedding party.

uppereastgirl

neilly, no it is not tasteless -- word of mouth is perfectly fine for rehearsal dinner. don't worry

cherylanddan0706

Is it horrible that I want to do word of mouth and forget people?  I tried my hardest to "cheap out" for lack of a better term, and went with a chain place, and its still costing me more than I thought it would! Boy oh boy big families get you!

mscutieri

cheryl, you know N and I don't have to be there.  I know you mentioned wanting to include everyone, but N won't want to go and I'm so willing to stay home to save you the money.  Seriously.

uppereastgirl

Maybe some of the boys won't want to invite their significant others, or the significant others won't want to come? I wouldn't worry about having it at a chain place -- everyone will have a big fancy meal the next day. There's nothing wrong with a laid-back rehearsal dinner. I consider myself very blessed to have a small family

cherylanddan0706

Michelle stop that its not you guys, its totally not the ones that are engaged or married, those are important relationships, its the 10 people who are just dating.  Please understand when I complain its not because of you guys, honestly I dont think N will come, and I wouldn't not want you there no matter what!

mscutieri

Oh I know, i love you my dear.  I'm just saying if the money is tight I'd rather you get a chance to save some money -- :0)

cherylanddan0706

Even if I took the 5 sig others off, it wouldn't do anything really to the total, its insignificant.  If I'm lucky Uppereast is right.  I'm just cranky, frustrated and just want to be married and not have to deal with all this drama! I consider myself very blessed to have a small family So do I Uppereast so do I...

neilly18

Don't you just hate that the RD is another source of stress?  I think whatever you decide about the SOs will be OK. These people are supposed to be the closest people to you and in theory would understand.  I say in theory because I am beginning to learn through this whole wedding process people are weird.