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Craziness Rant

Ok, seriously people, this is a wedding. Yes, adding a 2nd guest for my 18-year-old brother (who is currently not dating anyone) 4 days before the wedding IS a problem.  Especially since I just forced him to chose his +1 that my mom gave him, Monday!  It involves, extra money, even more time assigning tables, etc.  It IS ridiculous, I am NOT over reacting about it!

Saying "we'll see" when I say you need to be at the church by 1:30 at the latest to take pictures at 2, is NOT acceptable!  Again, this is a wedding!  It involves cooridinating a ton of people, saying "we'll see" (and then most likely being late as usual) is NOT funny in any way.

Saying you want to get your hair done and then saying you're not doing it because we will need to start at 7:30am to get everyone done is NOT ok!  And saying maybe like 5 minutes later IS incredibly annoying!

Saying that everything you didn't have at your wedding in 1985 (including, STDs, favors, programs...) is dumb and a waste of time is annoying.  I get it!  You didn't do it!  It's really common place now and I want to do it ok!

Completely ignoring everything about your only daughter's wedding, including not knowing the time or location or offering any sort of help in any way, is not just annoying, it is hurtful.

Complaining that you don't want your ex-husband's significant other to sit on the front pew with him, just because you "feel like he's rubbing having a SO in your face" is retarded.  They've been together for about 8 years, build a freaking bridge and get over it already.

If everyone is alive by the end of the wedding it will be a miracle, gah.
End rant...for now. 

Re: Craziness Rant

  • edited December 2011
    Are you sure we don't have the same mom? :p
  • sjh456sjh456 member
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    edited December 2011
    That sounds like my family too.  To make matters worse, I just happened to pick the date that is my father's and step mother's anniversary, so my mom continues to complain that SHE is throwing THEM an anniversary party. 

    Put on your big girl pants and play nice in the sandbox, for ONCE, PLEASE!
  • allie76allie76 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hate how weddings bring out the absolute craziness in people.

    I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you can find some peace in the midst of all of the drama so that you can enjoy the start of a beautiful life with your soon to be husband.

    And don't even think about all those people on your hm!!!
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  • wlfpkbridewlfpkbride member
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    edited December 2011
    Awww...I'm sorry you're dealing with all this. Frown Just keep telling yourself...in a few days you'll be a Mrs. on your way to your HM!
  • edited December 2011
    jess!!! KICK EM' WITH THE SEXY BOOTS!!!!  (after you feed the piggies and step all in poop)

    sorry, that really sucks!  hopefully when it comes down to it they will all be respectful and get over it. in the end you will be happy, married and on your honeymoon :)
  • LBM7189LBM7189 member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't worry..............everyone's family is crazy!!!  I think this type of stuff goes hand-n-hand with getting married!  My FI and say almost weekly that we should have just eloped to avoid everyone else's drama!

    It will pass and you 2 will be on your honeymoon, alone :O), and they can all stay here and bicker!

    3 Days!  Don't worry about it.........just keep a flask handy :O)
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  • NcsuPsychNcsuPsych member
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    edited December 2011
    Jeez. . must be 'Full Moon' week. Give 3 strikes, but from the sounds of it. . they're in the negatives ;)

    Im sorry you're going through this! You're soo close and remember that at the end of the day you'll be married to the one you love dearly.

    It'll all work out :)
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  • edited December 2011

    On the day of all this drama will be white noise and you just enjoy your day!!  And hey, you only have 3 days till then!!!  I agree with everyone, then you can enjoy the HM in DISNEY. Which I am so jealous you are going to Disney, haha.  Sorry you are going through this and we are sending knottie vibes so they shut up :)

  • edited December 2011
    Um yeah...there's something about that last week that REALLY brings out the crazy...even in normally sane people.  Hopefully it will all calm down.  I will say that I was stressed with all family stuff until the day of the wedding.  You seriously have to give yourself a little talk and say 'no matter what happens, I will enjoy every minute of this day.' And then you will have a blast, be completely oblivious to everyone else but your DH and have a fabulous HM :)
  • edited December 2011

    Yup, totally feel your pain. Three days before my wedding, I had a huge blow-up with FMIL over her dropping out of getting her makeup done, which left me holding the bag, since I had to pay the hair/makeup person 50% for someone who didnt show up. Anyway I got really mad because it was just ONE more financial burden, I asked FMIL to please reconsider, and she like, went off on me in an email, telling me that if I was going to "get upset over every little thing" then we were going to have a very "hard road" ahead of us, and that FI "is very precious" to her and that I should reconsider marrying him if this was going to cause tension in our relationship (I made the bad mistake of telling her that her decision was causing tension between FI and I, because he didnt want there to be arguing between he and his mom). Yeah, I was told to RECONSIDER MARRYING him two freaking days before the wedding. Then she told me that there was no way she was reconsidering getting her makeup done with us, because she didnt want to be "part of THAT environment." It had me so upset, even on the day OF the wedding, because I knew there was someone present at MY wedding that wasnt 100% fully behind our marriage. I am not sure that I will ever forget her words to me. We used to be pretty close, almost like mother and daughter, but no more, I have no desire to be her friend now that I know what she is capable of. Oh and BTW, DH did go and talk to her about what she said to me (after reading her email to me, he said "wow, that was incredibly b*tchy"), I am not sure how that conversation went, I have never asked, it's between them.

  • edited December 2011

    I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.  I think at everyone's wedding there's at least someone that will you grief.  Just remember to breath.  After it is all said and done, have a great time at Disney with your hubby! :)

  • alliegator8alliegator8 member
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    edited December 2011
    That does suck, but like everyone has said, you are almost done.  You'll be in Disney before you know it.  Good luck the rest of the week!  And C' ya in Disney (I'll be there next week :) )
  • CJ4578CJ4578 member
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    edited December 2011
    Vibes! This sounds pretty much exactly like my family, and that's not even counting all the wedding-craziness they're already up to. :) My advice is to have a happy-place in your head (seems the honeymoon destination might be a good visual here) whenever they're harping at you. 4 days before your wedding your decisions are final, if someone tries to argue with you, disengage and go to your happy place. Works like a charm for me. :)

    But yeah, people are obnoxious. Either way, I know your day will be great!
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies!  I seem to only have time to check email and stuff at 3 am right now.  Amanda, I left my awesome boots in Raleigh :( Lol.  And my MOH is sending me "friendly reminders" that if I murder someone I will have to go to jail lol.  Sane people will be here tomorrow!
  • edited December 2011

    i am disappointed that you have left the awesome sexy boots behind and you will not be fasionably sporting them on your day!!!



    i can't wait to hear your stories about Disney, do NOT forget to wear the newly wed ears. lots of discounts and perks that they dont advertise!  we have talked about going there since we weren't really going to take a HM.

  • edited December 2011
    i am disappointed that you left the totally sexy awesome boots behind and you wont be fasionably sporting them on your wedding day!  you could have even tied white ribbon bows on them!!!

    p.s. don't forget to wear the newly wed ears while you are in disney...supposedly lots of extra perks and discounts that they dont advertise for newly weds if you wear these things.

    plus i want to see a pic Laughing
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