I'm on a roll: Was FI/DH your type?

soontobemrsdavis

Did you have dating criteria before meeting your FI/DH?If so what were some of them?Did you have a type that you typically went for? If so does DH/FI fit the mold or break the mold?

mrs.spunky1508

Tall. Kinda... round? I'm a bigger girl 5'6" and a size 16/18 so I tended to gravitate toward guys who I looked small(er) than when I stood next to them. That probably sounds SO vain! DH is not short, but only 2" taller than me and very fit. I wouldn't date a smoker, and he's not a smoker. I wouldn't date someone who drinks excessively and he doesn't. I don't like long hair or much facial hair on guys. Besides him growing a beard last winter, my H is clean-shaven, so in those ways he "fit the mold"

soontobemrsdavis

My main criteria that i can pinpoint was tall, handsome, like to go out, and have ambition.Syn is not what I would call tall. So that was out of the norm for me. He is def handsome :-) and is a very determined individual.

justkris10

I literally had given up on dating when I stumbled upon DH However, my "criteria" was along the lines of self sufficient (financially and mentally), not clingy or smothering (I hate that shyt), geared toward success (goals) and then has to have a good sense of humor (I'm a huge wise arse) and outgoing DH was those things, but he was a bit smothering I loved him for it though. he was the polar opposite of my "looks" criteria but I love him for that too. DH definitely BROKE the mold...but I guess that's how we ended up married...apparently I was looking in the wrong direction lol

Sinthya

I was always all over the place in who I dated and didn't have one type of guy that I'd date (in terms of race, religion, height, physical appearance)...but, well, I'm sure you know the saying I'm thinking of, and clearly I never went back ;)I did like to date taller guys. MH is only 4 inches taller than me, I've dated guys who were 6'5 and up which I loved at the time. But now I couldn't imagine someone THAT much taller than me, but thats bc I'm used to MH and don't care for anything different. I also used like dating guys who were older than me. MH is only a few months older than me.

30may09bride

Physically, I wanted someone tall, good build, cute face, short hair and DH meets all of that.  He is also a good guy, loves his family, has goals, and is hard working.  But, I certainly didn't expect to marry someone 16 years older than me, who had been married before, didn't go to college, and had a daughter only a few years younger than me.  So, I go with overall, he broke the mold.

Sinthya

haha, I sound so superficial compared to you girls! Looking for guys with goals and whatnot. BUT I did meet MH when I was 17, so I was in no way looking for real BF material, much less husband material. I was more into non dirt bag, no kids, has his own car to take me to the movies and stuff.

soontobemrsdavis

girl those are the same things...likes to go out = has no kids and has a car so therefore is able to go out whenever i wanted too

mrs.spunky1508

Yeah I wasn't too concerned with goals either. I mean, I met him when I was 21 and still in college. Mostly everyone else I was meeting at the time had their sights on more schooling to delay the inevitable "real world", or was majoring in something that, IMO, wouldn't seem to garner much of a paycheck. He was 27, working for a good company, had a decent job within that company and so forth, but had gone through a traumatic breakup about a year prior. He tells me all the time now that I "bought the stock at JUST the right price" LOL

soontobemrsdavis

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backyardbride2010

Physically, FI is polar opposite of what my "type" was. I always liked stocky, darker football-player types. But every person I have dated including FI is tall, skinny, and blonde. I really wanted someone who was close to their family, respectful, and without a temper - all things i had overlooked in past boyfriends. FI fits the bill!

AllieCat16

I did have dating criteria before meeting FI. Had to have a stable job, college educated, a year or two older than me. General stuff in common but someone that I would try new things with, enjoyed going out. Most of the guys I dated looked like Abercrombie models. They were usually italian and around 5'10". Loved sports or played sports or both! FI broke that mold completely! I refused to date him after he asked me out because he wasn't the typical guy I date...but I was so unlucky in love I figured eh what is one date...a few hours and it wouldn't be the end of the world. Well FI ended up being almost 13 years older than me, not a college graduate, had a blue collar job, rode a Harley...I had never even been on a motorcycle before! We hit it off from date one and have been together ever since...I was so quick to judge but I learned one big lesson in my life...don't judge a book by it's cover!

teamAandE

Everything I wanted and more!

allymp13

I always dated bad boys that were unreliable, lied, cheated etc but I was 100% all about looks. Has two kids he doesn't take care of who cares, doesn't have a job and still lives at home so what as long as he's hot!! Ha ha FI was the complete oposite, super sweet nice guy, with goals, didn't lie to me which took me a really long tome to get used! Never thouht I would end up with a nice guy!

The Little One

DH was physically my type-tall, dark, handsome.  I wanted to marry in the religion so it was perfect that he is half Israeli.  We both swore up and down that we would never date a lawyer so I guess we broke the mold there.  I also didn't think I would ever date someone 10 years older than me until I met him.

cherylanddan0706

I had always dated tall (over 5'10 I'm only 5'3), dark hair light eyed guys, typically Italian, so when I joined match I did the same to ask for certain things, I also wasn't looking for anyone that lived close to where I did (I was at a weird point).  When Dan contacted me (light haired, only 5'7, and lived around the corner!) I also wasn't his type, we both were "looking" for (according to our profile) two different things.  Obviously his personality totally made me "forget" what my stupid profiel said lol.FI definitely "broke" the mold, but I loved that, he was totally different from our first date than anything I had ever dated and I couldn't imagine him not being who he is, he broke the mold in the best way possible for me.

The Little One

Aww Cheryl, that's so sweet!

kewltif

This is hard to say because I think I always had my type that I could list on paper, but that wasn't exactly who I gravitated towards. Some non-negotiable things: College educated A minimum of my height (5'9") but really was attracted to well over 6' Attracted to him (which in some instances meant ridiculously hot, and in other instances it was just a general attractiveness) I actually always like the nice guys. I never went through a bad boy stage. I'm a bit of an AW so I actually was never into the "hottest guy in the class" or the "football quaterback." I wasn't into super outgoing guys. I think they made me uncomfortable because I felt like they were above me or something. Like they could pick whoever they wanted. I also didn't like competing for attention. I really just never meshed with guys as outgoing as I am. So now that I've typed this all out I guess DH does fit my type! Even if I didn't realize it was my type at the time. He's tall, cute (to me), educated, sweet, easy going, accomodating, well manner, and definitely on the reserved/shy side.

mrs.spunky1508

And as for me being DH's type, I was totally not. We met online, and his roommate's GF (also named Kate btw) picked me out. He had different perameters when he was looking. First off, he wasn't looking for anyone younger than 24 or 25. At first he thought I was too young and we wouldn't have anything to talk about. He had only dated girls under 5'3", typically on the thin side (from what I know of his exes), who were around his age.His roommate, who was the one who convinced him to try online dating after a really nasty breakup told him "don't worry you'll find your own Kate one day." Of course he didn't mean it literally, but here I am! Unfortunately ex-roomie and the other Kate are no longer together though!

dmoney79

i was always drawn to big and beefy guys with facial hair..... and that's what i got!altho, my ex was like, 5'4" and skinny as a twig...where as i'm 5'10" and not skinny as anything...weird

cherylanddan0706

Thank you Emily I'm a big mush lately with him!

FutureMrsF111

I didnt have a type other than I wanted the exact opposite of my ex. when I met FI i just realized he was everything I was looking for. Im nothing like FIs exes so I am assuming it is the same for him

Kim84m

---------This is hard to say because I think I always had my type that I could list on paper, but that wasn't exactly who I gravitated towards. That was the case for me. I knew exactly what I wanted, and kept on dating people that had SOME of the things I wanted, with a lot of the things I didn't. Love beat me up and spit me out and I gave up and lowered the bar. I let a jerk convince me that if the dream guy I imagined was completely unrealistic, and even if he actually existed, that I didn't deserve him anyway. And then I met FI. He is everything I have ever wanted to a T and then some. He's respectful, considerate, hard working, very family oriented, smart, funny, understanding, and handsome. I CAN NOT WAIT TO MARRY HIM!!!

danafromslope

My DH broke the mold---i always thought i would end up with a tough guy who looked like Common or Idris Elba. Instead I ended up falling for a a half Irish half Italian redheaded white guy who is brainy and sooo far away from being considered tough its funny!! I love him to pieces and even though we seem like complete opposites we have SO much in common its scary!

DiorAndKisses

lmao @ Sin...hhaha never went back.  That's great!  And Cheryl, you and Dan should be a Match commercial with your cute selves.  I was friends with FI for just under a year before agreeing to go out with him.  (He had been trying.)  I said I'd never date the following:*guys with too many tattoos - I have no reason for this...*guys who drive big pickup trucks - Just thought it was too machismo for me...*guys who didn't have a job that required a button down shirt and a business card - Cause that was what I was used to...*bald guys - Just kinda freaked me out with the shiny dome lol*"NJ Italian" guys, more specifically Sicilian guys - Some of my good friends are "those guys", and I vowed never to date anyone remotely like them.  lol  I wasn't really feeling the old-school mentality.FI is all these things, so I was adamant about NOT dating him.  lol  NJBridetoBe44 (I think I got that name right...) just wouldn't let it go.  "You should go out with him!" over and over.  She was right. 

chrissy31805

i would say my FI is 98% of what i was looking for. when i was single, i wanted the tall and handsome guy who could be someone that i could have fun with. not saying i was looking for a fling, but more of a person that i would know could always make me smile. adam completely does that for me. the only negative thing about him was that he was a smoker when i first met him, but he stopped and now barely has one. oh, and another negative, he's a mets fan whereas i'm a yankee fan. its fun but he hates rooting for them. i like to bust his chops about how awful his team is compared to mine!