Hi Ladies! I know I haven't been posting on here recently but I hope you'll excuse my absence and give me some help on an issue I'm having with my bridesmaids. I love them and they're not doing anything wrong, per se, but... how would you handle this situation? (Long, sorry!)
BM#1 is a long-distance friend who is also really good friends with BM#2. (Background on BM#2- her parents treat me like an extra child and are hosting my wedding {not paying for it, but letting us use their property to have it} and BM#2 actually bought my wedding dress for me as a wedding gift- she is basically a sister to me. But BM#1 is also a really good friend whom I love.)
BM#1 has a boyfriend who BM#2 kinda hates. There are sort of good reasons, in that the boyfriend treats our friend like crap and we think she deserves better. Regardless, of course I would invite boyfriend to the wedding with BM#1 since they've been together a while. Until. About 6 months ago a situation happened where the boyfriend found out something about BM#2 and sent really ugly texts to her in the middle of the night- and then BM#1 said that boyfriend and BM#2 probably shouldn't be around each other for "a while." Because she didn't know what boyfriend "would do." Well, my wedding is still 6 months away but BM#1 is trying to figure out travel plans and is wondering if boyfriend is invited. She says he'll be totally fine being at the wedding and would never do anything to cause a scene or whatnot. BM#2 however, is not convinced and really thinks he should be left at home. (And she's borderline afraid of him. I cannot figure out if she's overreacting like BM#1 says because I've not actually MET said boyfriend since BM#1 lives so far away.)
There's more of course but this is already too long! So... uh... how would you handle that? Any ideas? I'm hoping I just haven't thought of the right approach yet and it's a bit stressful being in the middle of all of them...
Thank you so much if you've managed to read this long! And I hope all is going well with everyone's planning!
-- C