Depressed about getting a wedding dress.

connor24

I know getting your wedding dress is suppose to be exciting but I am the opposite. I am getting married in exactly one year so I know I have to start looking soon. I had a baby a year ago and never lost all my pregnancy weight. I am 5'7 and was a size ten but now I am an embarrassing size 16. I don't even want my bridesmaids to come with me because I feel so embarrassed. Okay i just needed to vent

mbcdefg

Don't feel bad. You will be lovely. And your friends do not care about your size, they care about YOU.I'm also a 16 and I had a great experience at Park Avenue Bridals in Verona. They carry samples in lots of sizes. Russell's in Linden is also supposed to be good for varied sample sizes.

jaimelody

The PP is right, more people will care about you than about your size. You still have some time to shed some lbs if you really want to before the wedding. I wasn't trilled about dress shopping either, partially bc of my size and partially bc I just hate shopping. There are some great shops that can help you find a look that'll make you comfortable and secure. You will be a gorgeous bride!

kewltif

Everybody looks their best on their wedding day! There are SO MANY dresses to choose from and you can pick a style that really makes you look awesome, regardless of your size. Do not let this get you down! You also have exactly a year to get down to a size that you're more comfortable with. Even a pound a week would be a 52 lb loss and many people lose more than that (not saying you need to).

jtheiss

I felt the same way, but it turned out to be not so bad. I'm even a couple sizes bigger than you and was still able to try on a bunch of stuff. The first time I went I flew all the way to Denver where my best friend lives to go shopping with her because she was the only one who I felt comfortable enough going through all that with. You don't have to bring all of your bridesmaids with you. I went by myself on the day that I went to order my gown. Go with one person who you feel comfortable with and once you narrow it down to a few gowns, then you can get the whole bridal party to come with you when you order it, or you can even wait until you have a fitting. You might start at David's. I knew I didn't want a David's dress, but they have a lot of dresses in extended sizes, so at least you'll be able to try a lot on to get a feel for what looks good on you. Then when you go to other salons you'll have a better idea of what you're looking for. I ended up buying at Park Avenue Bridals in Verona too and they were very kind and sensitive to my feelings on the body image stuff. I would highly recommend going there. They have a good selection of plus sizes and they are very nice.

jchristel

I loved Park Avenue Bridals too! I have gained a bit of weight and was worried about trying on dresses, but my experience was great. I don't know if this would make you feel more comfortable, but I wore a spanx when I shopped. I felt I looked better in the dresses and I felt much more comfortable getting in and out of them with the woman in the room. I couldn't imagine standing in the room with a stranger in my underwear! I'm sure you are going to look beautiful!!

Rosie24

Don't be depressed about it! There is NO reason to feel embarrassed. I agree with pp about your bm.

Danes983

I had simiar feelins about shopping because I just plain hate dresses. I have never felt comfortable in them.  The first place I went was David's Bridal (on a whim)  I had such a fun time and didnt cry once like I thought I would.  Go ahead and give it a good try and I promise you will see that it doesnt matter your size you will be beautiful in each dress. Good Luck and Keep your head up.

mrs.spunky1508

There's no need to be embarrassed, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. I know that's a cliche, but I believe it to be true. I am around a size 16 myself, but I've never been thin. I tried to lose weight for the wedding to be at my absolute thinnest and most fit. I got more toned in some areas but didn't lose a noticeable amount, and for me that was ok. My H still says I was beautiful beyond belief that day and that's more than enough. I did feel beautiful, I was just so happy and excited that I wasn't concerned with looking like a cow. I also picked a dress that, IMO, was flattering for my figure. I have a large chest and wide hips and not much in the middle so my dress accentuated that. I also wore great undergarments - they make SUCH a difference. I'm also of the belief that there IS such a thing as too many cooks in a kitchen. If you bring too many people with you, their opinions may overwhelm your own. So go by yourself, or take 1 close friend or family member who will be honest with you, just to see what you like, what looks good on you and so on. That way, if you choose to ask more people to go with you on subsequent shopping expeditions, you will have an idea of what you, and you alone, DO and DO NOT want.

mrscoriotobe

I know exactly how you feel! When I went dress shopping I had just had my son 3 months prior.. don't feel embarrassed there are so many dresses out there that suck you in and hide any unwanted baby pouches. :)My first time shopping I went by myself to see what I liked and what looked best on me. Then my second time around I took my best friend also my MOH and we had so much fun! And you have the rest of the year to work on losing if you wish No worries!

ddelo23

I was in the same shoes as you were.  I had my son a year and 3 months before my actual wedding date.  I definitely wasn't at my idea weight, but I still felt beautiful, and had the time of my life.  don't stress it! have fun with it!

newgate309

I'm really dreading dress shopping as well. I'm the same size as you and my biggest fear is that all of the samples will be like a 6 or 8 and I won't be able to really see what a dress will look like. I'm putting off shopping as long as I can because I'm working on losing the weight.