Bridal Shower... who did you (or are going to) invite?

Juliet212

I was asked to make a list for people who I would want to come to my Bridal Shower... with that said, I am not sure who to invite. My Aunt is throwing me my shower and she wanted my opinion just because she wanted people invited that I wanted to be there.

I am inviting 250 people to my wedding, I don't want 125 people at my shower. Did you invite EVERY woman who was invited to the wedding? Or just immediate family and friends?

*Sorry to post and run, I will be back later this evening. All opinion are welcome!!

Thanks everyone!!

cindy91788

My mom will be hosting my shower, so I am leaving it up to her as far as which female family members to invite to the shower. As far as friends go, I will be inviting all of my friends (or wedding guest list is at 185, and I think the shower guest list is around 40 or 50).

LADY324

I would say to only invite close friends and family members also maybe some co-workers who you may be close with. 

mbcdefg

It's not common to invite all the female wedding guests. Some people might even view it as rude (like you're just interested in the gifts they'll bring you). I wouldn't invite anyone you're not close to, or very distant relatives that you/your parents don't talk to very much.

As for people you know won't make it, like out-of-state/out-of-country relatives ... that can be tricky. Some people get offended if they're not extended an invite, and some get offended if you invite them knowing that they can't come because they might just see it as a gift grab. I'd have your mom/FMIL make the call on those people. (I had some out-of-state relatives send me gifts even though they couldn't fly in, but I normally send them things for bridal and baby showers myself.)

My list had my mom, my grandma, my sister, a few of my/our girlfriends (my sister and a friend were my two bridesmaids), our aunts and female first cousins, a few second cousins and some other relatives that my mom wanted to include, some longtime friends of my parents, and a friend of my sister/family who also helped set up the party. Probably 40 people in attendance?

ginabean82

I would say just close friends and family.  I've been to weddings where I wasn't invited to the shower and I actually preferred that.

MissButters

I did just family and very, very close friends.  I invited I think 14 and had 13 attend.  I did both moms, both siststers, his sister in law, mom's next door neighbor who I grew up woith, and then close friends.  Yes, I know this is really small compared to others - but we only had a wedding of 100 people.

Danes983

Nope. I believe they invited 75 to my shower and I invited the same amount of people.  I made my list and thenm both moms made their lists. I asked for only people who I knew and were close to me to be invited. No reason to have some lady give me a gift I have never met.

altimat873

I would say close family and friends but thats what my mom is doing for our side and that came to 30 women (I would say that was my expect 90% of the list) BUT my mom thought itd be nice to ask my FMIL if she wanted ot invite anyone. . . well.,. .my mom just got my FMIL's list and she put 23 people on the list, some people of whom I prob nevermet so I'll leave that final decision up to my mom to cut that list since she's paying for it with my MOH. I guess she should have been more clear before asking my FMIL. But for the most part I agree with PPs, close family & friends is all you need - dont want to seem gift grabby. I know at my job when people get married or about to, they have cake and usually all chip in for a small gift so I dont plan to invite those women to my shower.

goaliegirl

We invited family from my side and my husband's side, and close friends. My mom and MIL did both invite a few close friends of thiers as well.     We did not include co-workers since they had a shower for me at work around the same time.

carlaspeed

Yes, we invited the same people that were going to be invited to the wedding. There were around 80 people and my DH's mom paid for her guests and my dad for mine, and yes I had no idea who these people were/are (still) but they all were very nice and gave us pretty decent gifts all around $100. I guess that is what my mother in law gives when she goes to bridal showers. And for the wedding it was the same thing, we had 185 guests and 80 I did not know well who they were but these were the people that gave us $100-$130/head and the people that we knew $50 to $100, I guess DH's culture is really generous :-)

kasabby

I would say to invite family and friends--people you are close to. In my opinion, you don't have to invite someone's gf or wife, if you are not friends with them. 

Juliet212

Thanks girls!! Yes, I didn't think that I should invite EVERYONE but I just wanted to make sure. Wasn't quite clear if there was any etiquette that I missed out on. I don't want people to be offended either way (not being invited or gift grabby).

I am glad I asked though. Thanks again!