opinions please - sorry long

njpabzy

Our wedding party consists of my MOH (my SIL), Best Women (FSIL) and 6 kids - my 2 nieces (FGs), my nephew and FI nephew (ringbearers ages 4 & 6) and FI's 2 nephews as jr groomsmen (ages 8 & 10). Then there is my Brother who is walking me down the isle, and FI's father and step-father. The six kids live across the country so there was no way for all of us to go shopping together or looking around.
Initially we were having all 8 males wear tuxes with vests and ties (FI in a bisque vest and the other 7 in matching black vests.)
The tux rentals for the kids are expensive $139 each - although I offered to cover the cost FSIL asked if she could buy her 3 boys their tuxes instead of renting - the online site she sent me however did not look like they would match the tux that my nephew and the adults would be wearing and didnt look that great overall, both of which concerned me - however, I completely understand the cost factor and am flexible.

FI and I are now leaning toward the adult males wearing tuxes and the kids wearing suits, all with vests and ties - the suit rentals are half the price of the tux rentals. When I discussed this with FSIL she indicated she would still rather buy the boys suits then rent them because they will get more use out of them.  I said that is ok with me as long as she looks at the suit rental from Men's Wearhouse and gets something similiar because that will be the one that my nephew is wearing and I would still want the shirts, vests and ties rented so they all match and I will cover that cost. The suit and tux rentals will be two button jackets that show the vest when closed so I told her I have no problem with her buying suits provided they are comparable.

Here are the questions I would love your opinions on:

Do you think everything will look ok with FI, FFIL, FSFIL, and my brother in tuxes and the RBs and Jr GM in suits - FI with bisque vest and tie and the rest with black vests and ties?

What about sticking with the tux for adults and suit for boys but having the adults - essentially the "dads" in black vests and ties but the kids in a coordinating wedding color (MOH is wearing brown, FGs champagne/ivory - so one of those)? For those of you that did vests did any of you have Dads in different color than GM?

What about tuxes for all of them except Jr. GM? FSIL's suggestion so that the 2 ringbearers are in matching tuxes?

Somehow this got way more complicated then I thought it would so TIA for your opinions! We are running out of time as we are 6 weeks out and as a PS. I know my brother and SIL are not interested in shopping around for a suit or tux for my nephew and will rent whatever I end up picking - and MW does not sell suits for boys.
Also considered having everyone except FI in suits but we want black suits and none of the "dads" (brother, FFIL or FSFIL) own black suits and I dont want to ask them to go buy black suits when it is easier to rent the tuxes.

Thanks!!

mbcdefg

I doubt anyone would notice if the younger kids were in black suits with the vests, and the adults were in tuxes.

I wouldn't worry too much about being perfectly matchy-matchy. As long as everyone's on the same basic formality level, you're fine. Nobody will be looking too closely at their outfits.

What did the dads say that they want to do, in regards to suits vs. tuxes?

kwilkinson14

I agree with MB, that no one is going to notice if adults are wearing tuxes and kids are wearing suits. I was actually thinking about doing this myself with the one ring bearer in my BP. The cost of renting a tux for a kid is almost comparable with the adult. As long as the overall style is the same it should be fine.

njpabzy

dads said they have no preference and will do whatever we prefer.
what about the different color vests for the Dads and kids in the BP?