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No Flowers at the ceremony?

I'm getting married at St. Teresa's in Summit. It's a stunning church, and the area of the church is pretty big. We are only doing the short ceremony so my FI really doesn't want to spend the money on doing flowers and decorating the church and he feels that since the church is so big that if we attempt to try and do something simple it's going to look eh so why spend the money there.
Is not decorating the church going to look tacky and look like we cheaped out?

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    edited December 2011
    we did the same thing. I didn't really care about flowers, the church was already stunning. I just preferred to spend the money elsewhere. When we got there, there were already a few plants up on the altar... hoenstly, it was fine. Everyone told us how beautiful the church was, so I don't  think too many people noticed.
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't worry what the guests think. Most won't notice. You can also do something cheap- we had flowers at the alter, but also bows on every other pew. They were bought at Dollar Tree- 2 for a dollar- and I received many compliments on them. However, most churches want you to do some sort of flowers as a donation. My church made sure we were doing it so they had the decorations for Sunday masses.
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    edited December 2011

    I'm paying a hefty fee for the church so they better not expect me to donate flowers as well. Even if we were going to do flowers, those flowers were going to come with me to the reception...LOL.

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    edited December 2011
    Not at all. While I think flowers are beautiful, if your church speaks for itself, they aren't needed and I don't think it looks like you cheaped out. Our church actually had two beautiful fake flower arrangements that we used - otherwise we wouldn't have any at all.
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    uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In retrospect, I wish that's what we had done.  The only decoration we got for the church was an altar arrangement because our church was just not one that was easily decorated, and it was completely lost in the church.  Wish we had just skipped it altogether instead of paying for it + delivery fee.
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    felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married on the beach and decided to not have flowers for decoration.  The only thing we did was buy two palm trees (well they are more of plants not trees) to frame us.  Scenic wise, I think that the beach speaks for itself.  I am sure your guests won't even notice, I wouldn't.  Plus I just want to see the bride, not huge flowers blocking my view, sorry the last wedding I went to had these huge flowers and I'm short so I couldn't see anything, it was a waste.  
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    LolyalyssaLolyalyssa member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm thinking about skipping the flowers on the altar but doing flowers at each pew.

    I think that guests notice pew decorations more than alter decorations.

    Just something I'm considering...
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married outside (weather permitting, I'm praying) and we're just having rose petals lining each side of the aisle (by the chairs) and mine and my girls bouquets, no other flowers.....I think most people are focused on the ceremony itself and the two of you and not looking around to see if you have flowers.
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    viviannacviviannac member
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married at a Cathedral and opted not to buy any flower arrangements for the church. 

    I think the church is beautiful enough as it is and because of the scale of it, floral arrangements large enough to be visible would be very expensive.  I honestly don't think people will notice it.
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks all!!!
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto with everybody - my church is huge and decorations would be over the top if i did them - if anything i'm doing a white bow at the pews or something little like that.

    Thank you for posting this by the way - i thought i was the only one!! haha
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    edited December 2011
    Thinking back on the church weddings I've been to, I don't really think or can't remember if there were flowers.  I think most churches are beutiful enough inside all on their own.  I do remember bows on the pews.
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