One groomsman shouldn't wear his own tux, right?

jchristel

All of the guys are going today to order their tuxes, but one who lives out of state told FI he would like to wear his own. We chose Men's Wearhouse just because of this reason.  I understand that if you own a tux, you want to wear it as often as possible, but I'm imagining a different style jacket and possibly a different black looking off in pictures.  I also don't think he can rent just a vest and tie.  Not sure why I'm questioning this, but can someone confirm that an odd tux wouldn't work?

mbcdefg

I personally don't see a big deal with it ... I doubt it's SO different that anyone would notice. I wouldn't have known that MH, our groomsman and our dads wore the same exact tux unless MH told me. A tux = a tux = a tux, IMO.

But if it's important to you guys, talk to him about it and keep an open dialogue.

What does your FI think? If he's cool with it then I would let it go.

(We didn't look into renting just a vest and tie, but I've heard of it being done. A girl here a while back had the GMs wear their own black suits and white shirts but they rented matching vests and ties, and the groom was the only one in a tux. I only knew this beacuse she pointed it out, otherwise it wasn't obvious.)

TuffysMommie

I think it depends on his style of tux and the style of tux everyone else is getting.  (Mandarin collar vs. notch lapels vs. etc etc)

However, I wouldn't worry about color being off. And honestly, if the guy owns a tux, I can understand him not wanting to be bothered with having to rent one.

So unless the style he owns is totally different than the style the other men choose, I wouldn't worry about it and let him wear his own. If his is baby blue with ruffles and the guys choose black, then I'd ask for him to rent.

And yes, I'm thinking you would be able to just rent a vest/bowtie/whatever.

uppereastgirl

I'd say as long as both tuxes are basic enough it is fine.  One of our groomsmen wore his own tux.  I definitely couldn't tell day-of, and can barely tell in the pictures (even though I know who it is)... 

(demonstrative photo is cut off, but I wanted to show the guys as big as possible.  He is showing in this photo.)

 

felicia220

Why don't you call him and ask him what style his tux is, such as number of buttons on the jacket and such.  Or even email you a pic.  But I am sure it isn't that different.  And you can certainly rent just a tie and vest. I would be fine with that.

AlmostLoCo

Two of the guys in this picture wore their own tuxes and just rented the vest and tie. They both sent us pictures of their tuxes to get our okay first.  They wore their own shoes too.  The tuxes were a different style from the rented ones but I can't tell the difference unless I look REALLY close.

reese511

i agree w/ PP.  its really no biggie.  plus...if he's coming from out of town, it would be nice for him to not have the extra cost for a tux... if he already has one.

USER876

I would be concerned if the style of jacket is different  The black should match unless it's faded from age.  All the designer manufacturers buy material from one source so matching blacks is not an issue.  Seriously, by the time he rents the shirt, vest, tie, and stuff, how much is he saving?  I would also be concerned about the shoes (style and condition).

LuckyBrideToBe0013

There could be a reason other than finances he does not want to rent the tux.

Perhaps it is a size or fit issue that people would not notice if they weren't actually wearing it. My FI owns his own tux because he is tall and very slim. When you rent a tux they give all the tall guys the same pants and just take in the waste, the result is MC Hammer pants for my FI. The GM's tux might fit just right and is just more comfortable in it.

I'd ask for a photo of the jacket to be sure the styles won't be that different. If not, just let him wear his own. It's not something you will really notice or care about 10 years from now, but I'm sure he will appreciate not having to go through extra trouble and money when he is already traveling.

jchristel

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[QUOTE]I would be concerned if the style of jacket is different  The black should match unless it's faded from age.  All the designer manufacturers buy material from one source so matching blacks is not an issue.  Seriously, by the time he rents the shirt, vest, tie, and stuff, how much is he saving?  I would also be concerned about the shoes (style and condition).
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<div>I'm glad to hear that about the fabric.  It's not a financial issue at all, I think it was just a matter of him owning a tux and wanting to get use out of it.  I also think his tux is much much nicer than a rental, so I can understand him wanting to wear it. Unless the jacket styles turn out to be radically different, I'm fine with it, but if it's very different, he's more than happy to rent one with everyone else.  </div><div>
</div><div>The guys had major issues at the Mens Wearhouse tuxedo rental in the Rockaway Mall, so we've got bigger fish to fry at the moment.  </div>