Grandmother not coming

smw42

Well the call has been made- my grandmother will not be attending our wedding, which means I wont have any grandparents there. She refuses to leave her home in PA to come to NJ and keeps making up illogical reason why she can't come. The plan was to pick her up Thursday but she's making it impossible and now the worry is even if we drive up there she either will refuse to get in the car or will get in the car and then make the entire weekend impossible for my parents. My grandfather on the other side is still alive but in a nursing home and not able to come either.

I think it's the best decision but it's still upsetting. I have to call the florist and cancel her corsage, take her off the shoot list, and cancel her hotel room, and thankfully we left off 3 people for the hall so we won't be paying for her empty chair.

Just felt the need to share. Sappy pitty moment over. Yay for getting married in 5 days!!

jchristel

I'm so sorry.  You're day is going to be awesome anyway

Danes983

That stinks. I am sorry to hear that. Maybe she will change her mind?

hollyberry88

I'm sorry Sherri :-(  It sucks that she will not be there.  But you will enjoy your day anyways! 

kasabby

That is a bummer. Sorry that this happened. But you are right, as sad as it is, it may be easier on your parents if she doesn't come. Your day will be great either way!

I can't believe it is 5 days away!

berbm

I'm sorry she won't make it but It might be for the best if she'd make the experience harder for your parents.  That might sound harsher than I mean it.    I hope everything else works out perfectly for your wedding. 

As scared as I get when I realize that my wedding is in "1 week & 5 days", all I have to do is look at your ticker to feel better, lol. 

smw42

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry she won't make it but It might be for the best if she'd make the experience harder for your parents.  That might sound harsher than I mean it.  :(  I hope everything else works out perfectly for your wedding.  As scared as I get when I realize that my wedding is in "1 week & 5 days", all I have to do is look at your ticker to feel better, lol. 
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Hahaha I hear ya! And I think you're all right- thanks for the kind words of support. I think I was much more stressed last week than I am this week if that's any words of encouragement :)

raangoli

I am really sorry to hear, Sherri. I know that it must mean a lot to have one grandparent there, but I am sure she will be there in spirit. Maybe after the wedding is over and the craziness subsides you can go out to PA and visit with her?

I can't believe your wedding is in 5 days, that's just crazy!

berbm

That is encouraging.    It's a weird stress I'm feeling now.  It's mostly excitement but with a little sheer panic thrown in.  I'm a total control freak and there are a bunch of things I won't be able to control on the day of and that gives me a little of the itches but aside from that I'm just psyched for a great time.  

viviannac

Oh I'm sorry to hear that Sherri.  But I agree with PP, if it would have made things more difficult, it may be for the best.  Your wedding day will be amazing and the weather forecast is looking good so far

I also agree with berbm, your ticker provides some comfort.    

K&J64

That's a bummer Sherri, but you can't make her come, and if she's putting up a fuss you and your parents will probably have a much nicer day with out having her to worry about. I feel your pain. I only have 1 living grandparent and she lives in a nursing home now with Alzheimer's, I left it up to my mom if she wanted to bring her, but it would just be too much stress for my mom to have her there, so no grandma at the wedding She wouldn't really understand what's going on anyway, she doesn't know that I'm gay lol. She probably is still convinced that I'm dating this gay guy I used to hang out with when I lived at home lol.

Enjoy you last 5 days as single gal - looks like you're going to have a gorgeous October wedding!

misschristinec

awww Sherry! What a bummer with Grandma-ma-ma.  Soundsl ike she is going to be missing out on all the fun and will have to resort to looking at pictures of her darling granddaughter getting married.  T-minus 5!

kwilkinson14

I'm sorry to hear that Sherri! But like you mentioned it may be for the best. It sounds like everyone will have a more relaxed stressfree day. Can't believe your only 5 days away from your wedding!

kristen8040

Sherri, I know how much I would have loved for my grandmothers to have made our wedding if they were still living, I understand how hard it must be.  But I also remember how much my gmas whined and complained when they got older lol.  Honestly, she might just be happier at home and think of how nice it will be to go up and see her and take her out to lunch to show her the pictures

TuffysMommie

I'm sorry to hear this.

But 4 days? I haven't been here in months, and now you're at 4 days away?? Oh my!!! Yey!