opinion on bridesmaid jewelry

gymchick05

What is your opinion on buying BMs jewelry to wear for the wedding as part of their gift (I'd get them each something personal too). I was against this since Id like them to be able to wear whatever they want and not everyone has the same style, but I ran across this beautiful jewelry set that is understated and I really think they would all like and look great in. I do like the idea of them matching, but Ive been in weddings where they gave me jewelry (as the only present) to wear for the wedding and I was upset since I wanted to wear my own stuff I liked a lot more. So, it could go both ways. Is it tacky to ask them what they would want?

mbcdefg

I don't think it's tacky to ask them, but I would bet that the response will be, "Whatever you want!" which doesn't help :P

I would personally just let them wear their own jewelry, and save that money for a more personal and individual/different gift for each of them.

However, if you honestly think they would like the jewelry, and if that would not be their only gift (if you're getting them stuff they'd each like that is not for the wedding), then that's not a bad thing.

I've never really noticed or cared about the BMs' jewelry when I've attended a wedding. I let my two BMs wear what they wanted ... BM wore her diamond necklace, which was much nicer than anything I could've afforded to buy for her; and MOH/sister would probably never re-use anything I bought her so it was better to just let her pick her own (she wore faux pearls). They didn't match each other but it didn't look bad. I'd be shocked if anyone besides the three of us even noticed.

reese511

just think of it this way....do you honestly, in your heart, think they'll ever wear it again?  i personally would never buy someone something that i didnt think they'd like/wear.  if you think they'll like them and keep wearing the set, then go for it!  but if its YOUR taste and you just want them to wear it to the wedding...it might be a waste. 
i'm on the fence on this thing about the jewelry not "counting" as a gift.  i have received some really nice jewelry the times i was a BM.  just b/c i wore it in the wedding, doesnt mean it wasnt a very sweet gift.  i mean...my cousin gave us all a Tiffany's necklace - for that to not "count" as a gift seems crazy....that is a VERY generous gift.  i woudnt ever think to myself, "since this is part of my uniform, i better be getting something else"  ya know??

i guess it depends on the situation & what it is and if the person actually likes it. 

sgdc2011

I am not buying them jewelry.  I personally have NEVER reworn jewelry I am given and it's usually the cheap kind that LOOKS cheap in order to afford to give it to all of us.  If you think they actually WILL rewear then I say go for it.

mariaNryan

i bought them all jewelry included the junior bridemaids and flower girl... I have also bought them other things but I will not make them wear the jewelry I bought them the day of the wedding... Its up to them... I just got a great deal on all the sets and thought it was nice to buy it all for them...

vjt730

i bought them earrings, a fancy clutch and purfume

my bridesmaids actually said that bc the dress is so plain they really do need larger earrings they all felt this way so i got them.. i didnt spend a ton of money on them i went into the city and got really good deals.. gifts can be whatever you want to give, if you find jewerly that you like buy it if not try to find something else.

kwilkinson14

I know I wouldn't be able to get jewelry for my BMs that everyone would like and wear again. So with that being said I am going to let them wear their own jewelry. If you think your BMs would all like it and wear it again then go for it.

uppereastgirl

I've gotten some jewelry as bridesmaid gifts, but they were both for weddings that were pretty casual and they weren't sparkly/fancy.  I got a silver Tiffany graduated bead bracelet when my sister got married, and a gold Tiffany locket when my best friend got married.  Both were awesome gifts, but mostly because they were so non-bridesmaid.  I don't even think we were necessarily supposed to wear them on the wedding day.

Any time I've gotten sparkly costume jewelry as a bridesmaid gift it has gone to waste after the wedding.  I just don't have a reason to wear that stuff otherwise.  And I'm in the that isn't really a thoughtful gift for me camp. 

I agree with MBC that asking them isn't always the best route because most of them will probably say "Sure, sounds great!" to anything you suggest.  

But also, you know your girls better than we do!