Inviting grooms friends to shower?

agu101

My mom is asking for a prelim shower guest list, so I'm trying to come up with one for her.  What are you ladies doing regarding inviting females that are friends of the groom?  My FI has a lot of female friends from college that I don't know very well.  They're definitely invited to the wedding, just not sure if I should also be including them for the shower, or if it should just be people that I'm friendly with?  

What about wives of the groomsmen that you may not know at all?  Most of them I've only met once, and it's usually been at their wedding.

TIA!

mercy4

I want to have a small shower in my backyard, but FI has a large family so we will have 52 people on the guest list including myself (which is a lot larger than I want).  I decided not to invite his friend's girlfriends or his girl friends and just family on his side (with a parent having a family friend or two) and on my side I'd invite my family and family friends and my close friends.  I am friendly with the groomsmen's girlfriends and fiances but they aren't on my list right now.  I'm not sure what proper etiquette is but I say do what makes you happy.

sgdc2011

If you are friends with them as well, invite them.  I invited his girl friends that I am friends with, but not the gfs of his friends.

jcg98

From another perspective, a guy friend of mine got married a couple years ago and I wasn't invited to his now wife's shower. FWIW, if I had been invited, I would have attended, but I wasn't offended not to receive an invitation.

LissyM83

I plan on inviting the girlfriends/wives that I'm friends with especially since I was invited to a few of their showers already...

Delaney85

 I did invite his friends. He asked me to because he knew it would mean alot to them and we would be able to take them out after so he can visit with them.  He has a very close group of friends from High School / collegewho were guys and girls. I was friends with some of them in college, one of his ex girlfriends was among those invited. I was not totally thrilled about it but it would look like I was jealous or ill feeling towards her.

DoubleAS

All of fi's friends are seriously dating someone, or engaged, and I have become close with the other women.  We were actually just at one of their bridal shower's yesterday.  So yes, they're all invited to mine. 

If you are close with them, I say yes.  If not, and he doesn't mind, then its ok to leave them off.

kristen8040

I didn't have DH's friends or any wives/girlfriends invited.  DH's family couldn't come anyway since they live far away, so I figured it would be awkward for anyone else if they came since didn't know anyone. There were already enough people on the guestlist with my friends and family, so it might have been have been a too much with dh's friends as well.

Giaspo

Re: your FI's friends... I would only invite those that you are friendly with. Re: the BP's wives and GFs, if you know them well I would include them, otherwise, I'd only include them if you're having a really big shower. I knew the wives of our groomsmen, but my shower was only close family and friends. Honestly it's what you want and how you want to celebrate. Enjoy!

HobokensFury

My mom invited every woman invited to the wedding to my shower regardless of if I knew them or not. 1 actually came.

shoebie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_inviting-grooms-friends-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:b1806360-348d-4157-b6ea-835c9c332239Post:162c0237-39dc-4d68-873b-00f64c6e1960">Re: Inviting grooms friends to shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>My mom invited every woman invited to the wedding</strong> to my shower regardless of if I knew them or not. 1 actually came.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

<div>My family is doing this too :/ hoping only 1 comes lol ! </div>