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Shower Invites

kasabbykasabby
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I am trying to come up with my shower list for MOH (which she requested). I have some cousins that live in other states (NC, IN, AK). Now I know they will probably not be able to come to my shower, nor do I expect them to. The question is, do I invite them?

On one hand, if I invite them, knowing they live far away, it looks like I am just looking for gifts. On the other hand, if I don't invite them, I could see them being offended when they talk to other family members and realize they are not invited.

What is the right thing to do?

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Re: Shower Invites

  • cutiepie12702cutiepie12702
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    edited December 2011
    If they are cousins you have a close relationship with, I would send an invite...but when your mom speaks to them on the phone she can let them know not to feel obligated and that you guys just wanted to let them know they shouldn't feel left out. If you do not have a close relationship, I wouldn't send an invite. That's what we are doing for mine - My aunt and flower girl live in OH, so we are sending an invite but my parents are telling them they don't expect them to come so don't feel obligated. We have another relative who I am not close to and she lives in SC, so we will not be sending her an invite.
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  • hcer0708hcer0708 member
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    edited December 2011
    I put first cousins and aunts that live in diffrent states on my list. I think that they would have been more offended that they didnt get an invite rather than looking like I  want a gift
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  • tinydancer842tinydancer842
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's common knowledge that the bridal shower is for guests who live nearby & could reasonably make the trip. If you think they'd consider making the trip or would be very offended to not get an invite then invite them. However I have seen people at work get out of state bridal shower invites & just saw it as a gift grab.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Can you talk to your parents/aunts and see what they think? Different families have different views on this.

    My family members all invite each other to showers and stuff all the time ... I had relatives from Maine, New Hampshire and Florida cousin invited to my shower and they didn't come, but they sent things. Likewise, I was invited to the Florida cousin's baby shower and just sent her a gift.
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  • vjt730vjt730
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    edited December 2011
    if i was your cousin and your planning on sending me a wedding invite i would be kinda hurt not to receive a shower gift.. who knows maybe they will be happy or excited to send you something for your shower!
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
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    edited December 2011
    I invited all women invited to the wedding. 
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  • kasabbykasabby
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the advice Ladies!
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  • kellybussanichkellybussanich member
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    edited December 2011
     I would send an invite,  If you need a stationer, you can consider Invites by Kelly, located in Bergen County. Visit www.invitesbykelly.com
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