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So Sad. (Not wedding related)

My dog fell ill and he went downhill suddenly. He was sick two Friday's ago when I was on vacation, then sent home with some meds. Things got worse, the first vet misdiagnosed everything (so frustrated with them!!), long story short, he went to the hospital on Saturday morning and on Sunday he was just a disaster. I begged the hospital to let me see the dog, the vet wasn't going to do it at first, but somehow he acquiesed. I think he probably re-arranged his entire Sunday just so I could be there with my pet--I am truly touched by his kindess of the hospital staff-- I have never seen a god in such a way before and it was awful. He was a good dog, 13 years old and had never really been sick before. 

 I had to put him down on Sunday and the vet that re-arranged his schedule was nice enough to let me know my decision was the best way--he waited for me to bring it up--we did it there and then and I held the dog as he was died.  It was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my entire life and I am heartbroken in a way I have never known.

I feel guilty--wish I were a better owner when he was alive-- it was the classic story of girl gets pet as a teenager, goes off to college, and dog stays at the family house while girl goes out to live her life and move in with her fiance. The dog had visits to my fiance's house where I live and I would visit him as well, but not as often as I should. Everyone always knew he was my dog and he always loved being by my side. No matter how long it had been since I'd seen him last he'd come to greet me at the door--or come to lick my face and play--even as he got old and gray.  That dog got me through some terrible experiences in my life and I wish I could have realized how special he truly was when he was alive.

On the day I put him down, I was worried he couldn't recognize me, that's how badly it all had turned. The vet said it was the first time the dog picked his head up all day.  The dog tried to stand up when I came to see him, probably to greet me in our customary way--but his legs wobbled left and right and he fell down. He was drooling all over himself, his eyes were a mess. And I knew it was time. I almost think weirdly that the dog held on just for me, just to say goodbye, because when the vet at the hospital called and said he might not live through his tests (wich were scheduled for Monday) I begged to see that dog.

He died with his head on my lap looking at me, while I held him. He went peacefully with no fear and I know it was better that way. I remember feeling so sorry that the dog would not close his eyes, that maybe he couldn't close his eyes and I felt so sad that he died with his eyes open.  When I told my mom how haunted I was by this she said the dog wanted me to be the last thing he saw because he loved me so much.

I'm so sad and heartbroken--I never had a pet before and never knew how much they meant to their owners. To anyone else that has lost one on this site, I feel for you. And I'm really hoping all dogs do go to heaven because my dog deserved to.

Re: So Sad. (Not wedding related)

  • edited December 2011
    I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I went through that just a few weeks ago (except we didn't put my dog down, he was hit by a car in front of my eyes).

    Just know he's in a better place and that he knows that you tried to be the best owner you could be.  You're pain will be healed with time, just remember all the great times you had with him in the 13 years he was with you.

    Again, I'm so sorry.
  • edited December 2011
    Thats so heartbreaking....
    putting down my childhood dog was one of the hardest days of my life too.
    I am so, so sorry you are hurting.
    The hurt will lessen, though of course never fully goes away. If I really sit & think about my old dog, I can bring on the tears just as easily as the day he died.
    But it sounds like your pup was SO lucky to have you as his mommy! 
    I am sure we will both see our furbabies in heaven again someday.
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  • edited December 2011
    My heart goes out to you. Loosing a pet is such a horrible experience, it's like loosing a family member. My FI and I took in my family dog nearly a year and a half ago because my family really never took care of her. Long story short, she fell ill quite suddenly and I had to put her down after 2 days. It's a horrible experience and both FI and I love her very very much. The only comfort I had during that weekend was that my baby girl knew her mommy was there for her until the very end.

    The pain will lessen over time and I'm sure you'll be able to remember your baby with happier memories.
  • edited December 2011
    I am so sorry to hear about your dog.  I am a dog lover myself they are family members too so I know how heartbroken you must be! 
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  • edited December 2011
    I feel your pain and have been there many times with pets (we've always had them growing up and when i've been on my own).  I got a cat when I was in grad school (my first that wasn't a family pet) and I only had her three months before she got a horrible case of cancer and there was nothing to be done.  It was terribly sad. I also remember having to put my cat down that I grew up with after 17 years.  He also went downhill very fast.

    I'm glad to hear the vet was compassionate to change his schedule.  I'm sure the dog knew you and knew you loved him.  And, when you're ready and the time is right and your lifestyle permits you, the best way to honor a pet in my opinion is to adopt one and give another pet a chance at a good life. 

    I really believe we will see our furchildren again on the other side of that Rainbow Bridge.  Your pup will be there waiting to see you!
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  • edited December 2011
    Thank you everyone for your kind and encouraging words. I knew I loved The Knot--and now I know it has more to do with the good people on here than anything else.

    Thank you for the poem as well-- I have read it.  There is another, too, I was sent about having to put a pet down when it's time.
  • edited December 2011
    So sorry to hear---as a dog owner myself, I would be heartbroken. It really is so sad.
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  • edited December 2011
    I had a very similar thing happen to me about 3 years ago. My dog was just shy of 13. Never sick a day in his life and suddenly fell ill. After thousands of dollars and vet treatments I had him almost back to his old self. Just a couple days later he suddenly reverted back to being super sick and couldn't walk. The vet said you could smell the multiple organ failure and my poor dog even had an accident on the vets floor...he had never had an accident since he was a tiny puppy. You could tell he was embarassed.

    They let me take Buster outside to go sit under a tree for about an hour until I managed to get a hold of my best friend to come to the vet and be by my side when I let him go When he looked up at me and struggled to stand I knew he was telling me that he was ready. It was incredibly hard on me and I cried for days. I am crying just reading your story and thinking how close it is to mine. I got Buster when I was 12 and although I kept him with me that entire time, I never really vetted him like a should. I felt like the worst person in the world for not doing everything I could to ensure that he was perfectly healthy even though he never once showed siigns of being ill.

    Somebody on the Snarky Brides board just put her cat down. You guys should talk to each other. it will help.




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    edited December 2011
    Wow...your post really touched me. First off I am so sorry for your lost.  Losing a pet is like losing a family member.  We had to put our yellow lab down last year and I still miss her every day.  We got her my senior year of HS and like your dog she got me through a lot.  I was devastated when we had to put her down.  She went down hill very quickly due to cancer.  Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
  • edited December 2011
    I am so sorry for your loss.  Your post brought me to tears thinking about the love you and your dog had for each other.  Please know that you gave your dog a wonderful life where he always felt loved and looked forward to your times together.  You made the right decision to help end his suffering- it was a very selfless choice. 
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  • edited December 2011

    I'm so sorry for your loss. The first dog that was truly mine got hit by a car 3 years ago and died in front of my eyes. Till this day I think about her, she was a great dog and I suffered a lot when she died. I now have 2 other dogs and I would give anything for them, losing baby made me a better dog mom. They didn't replace my baby, but they made it easier for me to heal. I cried reading your post because I know the feeling, I felt I could have been a better owner. I will pray for you and I'm a firm believer that all animals go to heaven. ((hugs))

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  • edited December 2011
    Thank you all for your kind words. You are all so very sweet. It's comforting to know that some of you have gone through this too--though I wouldn't wish it on anyone--it's somehow better to know that you're not alone in how you feel or the crazy emotions you go through after the loss of such a big part of one's life.

    Badkittyct--iI would be happy to talk to the girl that had to put her cat down. I have a really pretty poem that might make her feel better. She can email me or PM me or whatever and I will send to her.
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