STD?

ekurtenb

Hi Girls, On STD's can you request those who receive them to RSVP? As some of you know from my intro post, we live in Denver and are having our wedding in Vegas. I can't even imagine waiting until we send out invitations to have a real idea of who will actually meet us in Vegas. The wedding is set for July 21, 2010. I was thinking about sending our STD's right at the beginning of January 2010. On the STD's I was thinking of saying the norm but then adding... Please RSVP to our wedding website at (fill in the blank) by (2-3 weeks from receiving date). Clearly, I need help! lol! Any ideas or suggestions? Have any of you done this? I am sure it is against all of the rules but I really think it's necessary. Thanks for the help! Emily

atlcatlover

The only problem I see with this is that you never know how things are going to be with this economy.  Someone might tell you in January they are coming, but then not be able to make it when all is said and done.  On the flip side, someone will say they can't be there yet work it out to be able to make it.  2 months out from our wedding I thought we would have around 85 people and we wound up with 68 (which was fine but a noticeable difference).

mloeks

Doesn't that make your Save the Date an invitation? And, we have people who have not yet decided and just a little more 3 months from the wedding...i am hoping (praying) people will RSVP.

ekurtenb

I guess it does make the STD an invitation... Ah, so can you send out invitations then 7 months in advance?! lol! I know the economy is up in the air but I am hoping that some people will just decide they can't make it. I know that sounds absolutely awful but trust me the list is way too big right now. And we are having a Cake and Champagne reception at home, in Denver, when we get home. So most people will be able to come to that I am certain. Ugh, this is a tough one!

Marilynfan

I have a smaller guest list but I went ahead and basically put a RSVP on the STD. I don't really intend to send out formal invitations. I'll just keep updating the website. I said on them to let us know if Vegas is in the cards and put an email address, along with the website url. On the website I put a disclaimer that I wasn't looking for firm commitments I just wanted to get an idea of who is planning to come. I know Vegas isn't for everyone so I hope those that know it is not for them will let me know now. I couldn't stand not really knowing. As I said my wedding is not a formal thing so this worked so far for us.

ekurtenb

Thanks Melinda!I will also put a disclaimer on our website. And that is a good idea to also put an email address! Thank you!

jlstewart

I have a similar situation. I have included my wedding website address on my STD's and plan on just spreading the word that RSVP's would be appreciated prior to the formal invitations going out. My plan is to also request hotel information closer to the wedding date to make sure that those that RSVP will actually be attending.

mloeks

We sent out STD's with our Web site on them, specifically to refer them to hotel accomodations. However, I've been surprised in this day and age how little our guests have looked at our Web site. They always seem surprised we have one...so my advice is to have a back up plan.Most of the people who told us 7 months out that they were gong are now not going. And some of the guests who told us they would not be going are going...people change jobs, financial circumstances change, even family circumstances like having a baby or a sick relative, will change your numbers.

jusstice

The wedding website is a big bust with my group, but I  expected it would be.  Only one person used it to RSVP, and based on the number of hits, not very many viewed it.  If you are going to count on the website, make sure that you know your people well enough to know if it is going to work for you, or cause you more work in the end with phone calls. I sent out STDs with about 10 months to go, and I had all these people say they were coming.  I had planned for about 50. Now, 37 days away, most people have responded to the invites (which went out with about 3-4 months to go) and some people who were "absolutely going going going" are NOT.  Then there are others who are going who initially thought they couldn't.  Right now, I have about 44 people, which is still fine.