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Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...

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From an old friend of FI's addressed to FI and guest (and she does know he's engaged). Really? We've been engaged for almost a year and you couldn't take the extra time to find out my name? Sorry, just had to vent a little. We got the invite yesterday and it still sort of bugs me.
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  • junebug61103junebug61103
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    edited December 2011
    ahhh thats lovely....we get stuff in the mail from FI family/friends and they spell my name "Ginny"...my names Jennifer and I go by Jenny...after 8 years together you think they could remember to spell it correctly.
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  • ahhhitsshannynahhhitsshannyn member
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    WOW.... that is awful!!! How rude!!! I would be super annoyed too!
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  • direy25direy25 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:b33e5afe-4259-4259-b66f-edf358487363">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]ahhh thats lovely....we get stuff in the mail from FI family/friends and they spell my name "Ginny"...my names Jennifer and I go by Jenny...after 8 years together you think they could remember to spell it correctly.
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    It just seems like there's no such thing as common courtesy anymore...
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  • tlbattagliatlbattaglia member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally understand your frustration.  Last winter we got an invite from one of FI's BEST friends (FI was a groomsmen in the wedding and everything) (and actually the guy is a groomsmen in our wedding), and it was addressed to FI & Guest.  Um, HELLO!!! We live together!  I thought it was extremely rude.  Of course my FI told me to get over it and not take it so personally.  Nice.
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  • direy25direy25 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds this rude. I took the time to find out everyone's SO's names for the STD's. @tlbattaglia, It's funny because I was actually surprised at how personally I took it.
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  • wallacjewallacje member
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    I think I would have the same reaction you had. I mean, they could have sent a text message or a quick email to get your name.  I know when I sent out the STD"s that I tried to get as many SO names as possible, some have changed since I sent them out, but I will update, welll maybe not when I send out invites.
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  • maryesheamaryeshea
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    With facebook and cell phones --I really find there's no excuse for these things!  Laziness at its finest!Yell
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  • GribblesGribbles member
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    I agree. I got an RSVP addressed to Ben & Pippa. My name is Petra. How hard is it when it is emblazoned across the very form that you have just ticked the boxes on?!
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  • junebug61103junebug61103
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    ohh no...if I get a ton of RSVPs addressed to Chadd & Ginny....Im gonna be soo annoyed.
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  • NatrashaNatrasha
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    edited December 2011
    I would be a little upset too!

    Last year FI got a wedding invitation... and it was JUST to him. Not even a "plus guest." And they knew we were engaged. Needless to say, FI RSVP'd NO.
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    Well to be honest I would have had a moment. THEN. You gotta move on...I know that I tried my best to make sure that I covered all of my bases, but, sometimes it happens...and at least he had a "guest". Just remember that things get hectic and in all honesty some people don't do there own invites and you never know if it was really someone else's mistake.
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  • direy25direy25 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:8c1e7a16-a6be-49a1-a3d6-bcc88176cb42">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well to be honest I would have had a moment. THEN. You gotta move on...I know that I tried my best to make sure that I covered all of my bases, but, sometimes it happens...and at least he had a "guest". Just remember that things get hectic and in all honesty some people don't do there own invites and you never know if it was really someone else's mistake.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:f71c8bd8-aa31-4bb9-bed3-85cfad7532f7">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday... : Ahhh stinkerbell, always the voice of logic & reason... 
    Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

    Well now that I am done I can step away and see ALL of the silly things that set me off and I have to LOL at myself...and...Just think...she probably has not found TK and had no idea of proper etiquette :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:628265d7-77ac-4c21-8dc8-85228385de68">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday... : Well now that I am done I can step away and see ALL of the silly things that set me off and I have to LOL at myself...and...Just think...<strong>she probably has not found TK and had no idea of proper etiquette :)
    </strong>Posted by stinkerbell6879[/QUOTE]
    That was actually one of the thoughts that popped into my head when I first saw the invitation, lol...
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    edited December 2011
    I am no E professional, but I am pretty sure that unmarried couples who are living together,  (or engaged) should be added on the invite. If you have a friend not in a serious relationship that you want to be comfortable at you wedding, you would invite "& Guest."
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    Umm thats not rude thats called etiquite.  Your not married yet.  In fact you are a guest. 

    Well to be honest I think MOST people only do "Guest" if they are offering a +1 to a single friend, not someone who they KNOW is in a relationship. Like I said to be honest it could have just been a addressing mistake and they happen. I wrote out both parties names, married, living together or not.
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  • direy25direy25 member
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    I was under the impression that engaged couple = social unit, which means both names should be included on the invitation.  And as I mentioned above, maybe I just took it a little personally because I did take the time to find out SO's names when we sent the save the dates.  I guess I wasted a bunch of time by trying to be considerate.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:235adfd3-35bf-405e-b327-7a74e0c09cf8">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was under the impression that <strong>engaged couple = social unit</strong>, which means <strong>both names should be included on the invitation</strong>.  And as I mentioned above, maybe I just took it a little personally because I did take the time to find out SO's names when we sent the save the dates.  I guess I wasted a bunch of time by trying to be considerate.
    Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

    YOU are correct.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:235adfd3-35bf-405e-b327-7a74e0c09cf8">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was under the impression that engaged couple = social unit, which means both names should be included on the invitation.  And as I mentioned above, maybe I just took it a little personally because I did take the time to find out SO's names when we sent the save the dates.  I guess I wasted a bunch of time by trying to be considerate.
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    That's what I thought too.  I feel ya on taking the time to be nice about it, at least you did the right thing.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_got-wedding-invitation-mail-yesterday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:1bf76642-8aa5-422e-a6ea-df5198beb153Post:e89fcb8b-4769-477b-9d24-a21dbd61da82">Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got a wedding invitation in the mail yesterday... : That's what I thought too.  I feel ya on taking the time to be nice about it, at least you did the right thing.
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    Thanks!  And again, I do realize that I may have gotten a little too worked up about it, which is why I came here to vent, and now I'm over it.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
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  • ebonyivory10ebonyivory10
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    Oh direy! No good deed goes unpunished Wink
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  • junebug61103junebug61103
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    I also went through the trouble finding out SO names for our STDs...even had to look up on TK whats proper etiquette for addressing for same sex couples...it seems kinda lazy that they didnt even bother getting your name when they took the effort to get your shared address.
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