Vent

drkarie

So it's 38 days to go now before our wedding!  Guess what phone call my fiance gets this past week as he is in the dressing room trying on a new suit to wear for the wedding?  His second groomsman calls to let him know, he isn't going to be able to make it to the wedding after all.  Are you freaking kidding me?  You wait until now to tell us you can't afford it (because your mom isn't helping you and your tax refund wasn't as you expected)? Keep in mind this is a 40 year old man we are talking about here.  I just cannot believe people sometimes...  Anyone else had any experiences with something similar?

kara811

A couple of our GMs are still on the fence with coming, but they are in the military so it's understandble. Can't you help him out with anything? Even the tux rental or loan  money? Anyway, if he can't come you don't have to have equal sides. It can be uneven. 

dvohnout

Yes. We only had one MOH and 1 best man. Our best man flaked out. DH's sister ended up standing up as his Best Wo(man). It all worked out in the end, and it wasn't a big deal even though I was initally very annoyed.

bcschuman

I made sure that my party was going before I even asked them to be apart of the wedding.  I have friends that are very budget savvy and I did not want to cause any sort of issues financially with them nor pressure them to come and then back out later!

FI did have a friend that he wanted in the WP but he told FI upfront he wouldn't be able to go because it is his son's first birthday weekend.

stinkerbell6879

It sucks but there is not much you can do except roll with the flow at this stage in the game. I feel for ya though, my DH best friend almost did not make it to wedding and I was upset because I knew how much it meant to my DH that he was there.

vfriday

My FI friends are flaky all the time.  I am expecting to hear the same news you did, but I have a plan in mind just in case.  After my brother walks me down the aisle, he will stand next to FI.  the other option would be to have his sister stand up for him.  They are so very close I think it would be kind of cool.  just let everything fall into place.  This is a minor glitch in the plan.

vegasgroom

Don't sweat it, if your FI is that good a friend with a guy who's 40 and still depends on his mom to help him pay for things, he's probably used to the guy having these types of issues by now.

aerinpegadrak

We paid gas money and one night of hotel for my MOH and another BM (they were traveling together).  We kept offering to help out DH's brother, but he kept turning us down, saying he'd be fine.  Then a few weeks before the wedding, he told us he couldn't afford it, and wouldn't be able to get the time off work.  Except the day of the wedding was his regular day off work.  My BIL is kind of a douche, is what I'm saying.

I wouldn't sweat it.  Our sides were uneven (by design), and no one died from it.

drkarie

Thanks all!  I just can't believe some people are so irresponsible (or selfish).  I have been trying to focus instead on how fortunate I am that we have many other people who love and care about us that are sacrificing time and money to come out to Vegas and celebrate with us.  It helps me to focus on the positive.  I'm just really annoyed still on my fiance's behalf.

robinpandnateh

This is why we aren't having a wedding party.  It alleviates any frustrations/disappointments with possible "flakey" behaviour! 
I feel for you and would be extremely pissed to find that out at this stage of the game.  Sorry to hear it.

lsvensson

I'd be livid too, if it's any consolation-- that said, like PPs noted, the day will go on. Focus on the excitement of being 38 days away! Wohoo!