Assistance with duties (from bridesmaids, family, etc)

xtinazeternity

My friend said I should assign little duties to my friends during my wedding (such as pacjing up our cards and gifts after the wedding). 

What are all the duties to assign during the few days while In Vegas?  What is everyone planning on doing or have you done?

vegasgroom

Unless the bridesmaids are going to be taking the stuff back home for you, I wouldn't ask them to be on cleaning and packing duty; that can really put a damper on the reception.  If you have a wedding planner/day-of planner, get them to do it, or perhaps the parents/in-laws can do it, that's who's doing it in our case.  My FI is not asking her bridesmaids to do anything other than get to the hair, makeup, etc. appointments on time with her, have fun and keep tissues at the ready for her during the ceremony.

j_jaye

The only thing I will ask my bridesmaids to do is to make sure they turn up (as in not go missing/arrested in Vegas- not demanding they be bridesmaids) and not to be too drunk/hung over for the ceremony!  and have a great time of course!

Gribbles

We are doing most of the running around in Vegas ourselves - I don't want to infringe on anyone else's vacation time plus I am a control freak and would prefer to do it myself so that I know it has been done properly!

The only things I will be asking my bridesmaid to do is help plan the Bachelorette night and to have her hair and make-up done with me on the actual day.

The groomsmen will be responsible for making sure everyone gets on the bus at their alotted pick-up time/place and ensure that noone sits on the reserved seats at the front of the ceremony venue. Oh, and look after the rings! And the best man will do his speech of course.

junebug61103

For my bridesmaids and groomsmen they have ONE job...show up...not drunk. I think thats going to be a hard enough job let alone anymore jobs : )

direy25

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[QUOTE]For my bridesmaids and groomsmen they have ONE job...show up...not drunk. I think thats going to be a hard enough job let alone anymore jobs : )
Posted by junebug61103[/QUOTE]
Pretty much this.  I don't intend to give anyone "jobs' during the wedding.  Now of course if anyone volunteers to help out, I'll gladly accept but the wedding is our responsibility, not our friends'.

kara811

Ditto everyone. BMs' only duty is to show up. You can't really delegate tasks to them, you can ask them nicely, or if they volunteer, but don't go giving them jobs as if their kids. My BMs really just have to be there dressed up and ready, and of course show up to our rehearsal and prewedding pampering. 

stinkerbell6879

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Assistance with duties (from bridesmaids, family, etc) : Pretty much this.  I don't intend to give anyone "jobs' during the wedding.  Now of course if anyone volunteers to help out, I'll gladly accept but the wedding is our responsibility, not our friends'.
Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

This. As long as they showed up for the hair and make-up that I had paid for and arranged I did not EXPECT anyone to do anything. I was OUR job to make sure things were ready to go.

If you feel that you will need that much help the you should look into getting a "Day Of Coordinator" to help.

ahhhitsshannyn

Same here, just hoping everyone is sober enough to not fall over while they dance

aerinpegadrak

I don't think you should assign anything.  People who want to help in some way will volunteer, and if you need that much help, you can always call the bell desk or housekeeping like you would on any other vacation.

We did need quite a bit of help getting the suite set up for the ceremony and reception since it had to be done while we were getting ready, so I made a thorough list of everything that had to happen and then waited for volunteers.  The groomswoman and husband of one of the bridesmaids stepped in to do most of the work, and the bridesmaids pitched in to finish up once they were dressed and dolled up.  I have no doubt that your friends and family will help you do things that really need to be done, as long as you're gracious and don't abuse the privilege.

jccswl

We hired a day of coordinator, and she made sure all our gifts/cards were in our room. We had also requested that all the DIY we did would be shipped to us since we didn't want to lug it with us when we left.

ahhhitsshannyn

jccswl, who was your DOC? I was thinking about getting one but had no idea where to find one and how much they run!

jccswl

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[QUOTE]jccswl, who was your DOC? I was thinking about getting one but had no idea where to find one and how much they run!
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

She was our rep. for the decor company we used. I asked if she knew a DOC and she said that she would do it on the side. It was perfect since she already knew all the details and she had relationships with Caesars (both the ceremony and reception managers). Her rate was really low, I'm guessing it's b/c she normally doesn't do it, so we tipped her an extra $200, b/c she was really that good and with the tipped she was still below the going rate for DOC.

vegasgroom

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[QUOTE]jccswl, who was your DOC? I was thinking about getting one but had no idea where to find one and how much they run!
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

We've been searching for one of those too, hard to know who's good/bad, etc.

xtinazeternity

So pretty much everyone said- don't give out jobs to anyone.  Thanks for your feedback!

I wasn't planning on doing this- until a couple of my friends asked how they could help.  I actually have a "wedding planner" who is a co-worker that does wedding planning on the side.  She offered to be my wedding planner as a gift to us for free.  I accepted, and took her on my scouting trip and paid for her expenses. However, I am such a control freak i really don't want help with researching or decision making.  I just need some help for little details or running around the day of.  She will totally help with that.  However, I had more friends that asked me how they could help.  That is why I posted this thread- to find out what all little details there is to worry about that miught be difficult for the busy bride to handle herself the day of- such as gathering up gifts after the wedding, etc.