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Anyone else having "ex" issues? (rant)

Hi everyone! Sorry but I have to let it out.
So, get a load of this.
FI's ex (as in 14 and a half years ago!) is stalking him. Yes, I mean it, she's stalking. She's sent numerous text messages to FFIL's partner over the past years asking whether or not we were still together. We never knew about it because she's always ignored her texts and never mentioned it to us to avoid upsetting us. Until a few months ago when this f***ing weirdo tracked down FI's email and wrote a love letter in which she blatantly "came on to him". He replied he didn't wish to be contacted (not exact words but you get the point) and included my name in the signature. She emailed twice again but we bounced the emails. Still didn't get it. So last week she texted FFIL's partner again asking her to explain why they can't be "friends". That was also ignored. Today, yes it's not over, she opened a FB account and sent him a message/friend request saying - I quote - I saw your pictures online and cried. With the same love that will always be there.

OK, so in my opinion she's a little disturbed. When FI and I met she did everything she could to be in our way and that caused me a lot of suffering, because I was very young and didn't know how to handle it. This (and the fact that she's a psycho) is the main reason I/we have no interest whatsoever in letting her in our lives. If she insists I'll sue her for harassment.

I feel better now. Thanks fo reading.

Re: Anyone else having "ex" issues? (rant)

  • edited December 2011
    Wow!  Crazyyyyy!  I don't have any issues like that.  I'm sorry to hear about that.  She really needs to move on and leave you alone!  Try not to let it get to you too much. :)
  • edited December 2011
    What a crazy woman!!!! I don't see why or even how people can be so crazy about someone that CLEARLY has given the message that they don't like that person. Just keep doing what you are doing, tell her to back the f*** off or else there will be repercussions :) Thats what I would do, but I am a little rough around the edges :D
  • edited December 2011
    You could report her emails as abuse to whatever provider she uses, maybe get her account closed.

    Married in Vegas - June 2011


  • kara811kara811 member
    2500 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    What a crazy bi**!!!!! I can't believe she's doing this to you! She really must be insane. Sorry this is happening to you and your FI Wiwi. I don't have anything like this going on with FI and I(we both don't have any exes really, just old flings). It seems like you've told her enough to back off already. You should warn her one last time to back off, and if she doesn't tell her you will have to take the necessary actions, legal or etc. I think what vegasgroom said is also a good idea. Feel better! 
  • pebbs_17pebbs_17 member
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    edited December 2011
    wow!! craaazy!! So sorry you are going through this! 
  • edited December 2011
    hmmm - unfortunately too many of those Crazies cross the line.  Aside from 1st making sure both your FB profiles are private and reporting her emails as harassment, I'd also take the time to get a little legal advice.  Perhaps a strongly worded "cease & desist" type letter from an attornery with a promise of further action (restraining order?) might be what is needed to get the point across.  If it doesn't, you have the first documention for further action.  (Be sure that no one deletes any email/texts she sends also!)

    I'm of the type that believes you nip things in the bud before they have a chance to get out of hand. God forbid this nutcase shows up to ruin your wedding or worse, show up afterwards when you've decided to start a family...

    I'm so sorry you and your family have to deal with this, and I wish you the best of luck in dealing with it.
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone for your words of support! I'm so upset and annoyed by this that my mind gets all foggy. I can't even think straight. Anyways, my FFIL's partner has warned her that take legal action will be taken if she attempts to contact him again. I'm going to ask my lawyer friend to draft a letter, just in case. The weird thing is that she lives in another continent - we're in NY, she's back in Rome - so I don't know how she plans on getting what she wants. The thought of her ruining the wedding makes me shiver but I doubt she'll be able to find out the details, being that they don't have any common acquaintances... I don't know what to think but better not stress over it too much. Hopefully this chapter is over now
  • guamibearguamibear member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    So sorry for this stress! She sounds a bit mentally unstable. I think you're going about it the right way and looking at your legal options. Better to be safe than sorry. 
  • mloeksmloeks member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    She is probably addicted to the drama that she is causing. Remember, the only way someone can make  you feel a  certain way is for you to allow them.
    I had an ex-boyfriend who re-appeared each and every time I had a relationship getting serious. I even had to get a protection order against him.
    Finally, I just stopped  reacting, and he went away seemingly overnight. I think hesaw my responses as some sort of encouragement or hope. Once there wasn't that, he seemed to get the message. It has now been 8 years.

  • edited December 2011
    Agree with mloeks, don't dignify the behavior with a response. Maintain your safety, but don't let the ex win by getting you riled up.
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