I'm the most hated woman in the world...

Natedawg71

When fiancé and I planned the Vegas wedding all his guy friends were talking about the Vegas bachelor party. At that point, I specifically told him that I didn't want him to do it there. I'm not a fan of strip clubs and the thought of some girls all over him two days before the wedding disgusted me. I knew I'd be upset anywhere he did it but I didn't want to be thinking about it two days before I married him. Two weeks ago he said that he was going to do it in Vegas because his best man couldn't make it any weekend before(even though doug flew to dc to host his). It's been argued about for weeks and he's agreed to have it in fl instead. Everyone has been told and now I'm not liked! I don't think it's fair because his best man procrastinated(possibly on purpose) that I have to give in. Anyone facing similar situations?

Sara191431

I'm not facing a similar situation, but I'm totally with you, I'm not a fan of strip clubs in the least, that may not be the "norm", but I don't care.  FI knew I'm not that way from the beginning, I could go into a long drawn out speal about it, but will spare you:)  However, most of FI's friends are the type to go to a strip club for his bachelor party, but they know as does my FI how much it would upset me so they aren't doing it.  For me, it's not a conrol thing in the least, it would seriously just upset me that much so to him why upset me over something so juvenile.  My FI isn't in to them anyways, he feels dumb at those places.  My point here is, don't feel bad about your position on this subject, you feel how you feel and have class, bottom line.

To your situation, if the guys don't like you now because of something like that, F them, I mean come on if they're going to be pissed or not like you just cause of that.  Grow up.  Either way, they'll get over it.  There's so much important things in this world to get upset about. They need to respect what you want, your FI does, so they should too.

There's a ton of things they can do that don't involve strippers, like golfing, casino, horse track, going out to a normal bar, and so on.

That's my take:)

smokeybailey

I don't care either way so I am not facing a similar situation.  I do not care when or where he goes for a bachelor party (there have been rumors of Montreal).  Strippers don't bother me in the least.

If you look at it from their perspective, you do look silly.  What did your FI want to do?  There's nothing to do now.  Your wedding is in 3 weeks and the bachelor party is planned.  I am sure strippers will be involved either way.  I wouldn't worry about it.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]When fiancé and I planned the Vegas wedding all his guy friends were talking about the Vegas bachelor party. At that point, I specifically told him that I didn't want him to do it there. I'm not a fan of strip clubs and the thought of some girls all over him two days before the wedding disgusted me. I knew I'd be upset anywhere he did it but I didn't want to be thinking about it two days before I married him. Two weeks ago he said that he was going to do it in Vegas because his best man couldn't make it any weekend before(even though doug flew to dc to host his). It's been argued about for weeks and he's agreed to have it in fl instead. Everyone has been told and now I'm not liked! I don't think it's fair because his best man procrastinated(possibly on purpose) that I have to give in. Anyone facing similar situations?
Posted by Natedawg71[/QUOTE]
Honestly, I think it's kind of bogus that you told him he couldn't have the party in Vegas.  Sorry, but putting that sort of restrictions onto the party makes you THAT FI.  If you don't like strip clubs, then you can have a conversation with your FI about that and he should respect that they make you uncomfortable, but trying to put restrctions on him is treating him like a child.

All you can do at this point really is apologize and wait for it to blow over.

Sara191431

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[QUOTE]I don't care either way so I am not facing a similar situation.  I do not care when or where he goes for a bachelor party (there have been rumors of Montreal).  Strippers don't bother me in the least. If you look at it from their perspective, you do look silly. <strong> What did your FI want to do?  </strong>There's nothing to do now.  Your wedding is in 3 weeks and the bachelor party is planned.  I am sure strippers will be involved either way.  I wouldn't worry about it.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Golfing, horse track, casino, BBQ,  just a bar in general etc.  If there is nothing else you can do that involves strippers for a guy get together, that's kinda sad.

Sara191431

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[QUOTE]In Response to I'm the most hated woman in the world... : Honestly, I think it's kind of bogus that you told him he couldn't have the party in Vegas.  Sorry, but putting that sort of restrictions onto the party makes you THAT FI.  If you don't like strip clubs, then you can have a conversation with your FI about that and he should respect that they make you uncomfortable, but trying to put restrctions on him is treating him like a child. All you can do at this point really is apologize and wait for it to blow over.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

Well sure let him have the bachelor party in Vegas, just say no strippers, your FI and his friends should respect that.  I see now problem with having it in Vegas IF there are no strippers involved. 

amandajean36

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[QUOTE]In Response to I'm the most hated woman in the world... : Honestly, I think it's kind of bogus that you told him he couldn't have the party in Vegas.  Sorry, but putting that sort of restrictions onto the party makes you THAT FI.  If you don't like strip clubs, then you can have a conversation with your FI about that and he should respect that they make you uncomfortable, but trying to put restrctions on him is treating him like a child. All you can do at this point really is apologize and wait for it to blow over.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
gotta agree with this...sorry.  if you don't like strip clubs, don't go to them.  but i don't think you can *tell* your fiance (or his friends) what to do.

coming from my perspective - my fiance doesn't want a bachelor party AT ALL.  but he realizes that the bachelor party isn't really up to him.  crazy stuff is going to be planned, because its tradition (including guns and strippers, from what the bits and pieces i've heard).  and i kind of look at it like any other pre-wedding party thrown for you...you don't get to dictate what others do for you.

Natedawg71

If he wants to go out and hang with his friends in Vegas, I'm totally cool with that. It's not the going out, it's the strippers 2 days before I marry him. I know I'll be hurt and sad the next day and I don't want that on my wedding weekend. I want to look at him with love! If he has it here, he can have strippers and I'll have a week or two to get over it. Ps- they didn't have plans already made.

Sara191431

Alright, I'll be done commenting on this subject.  But come on of course this involves her and she should have a say in it.  As does her FI, it's his bachelor party, he has a say in it even if he's not throwing it.  I mean really the bachelor party is for the friends benefit, not the FI's, but if the FI has a strong opinion on it the best man or whoever is planning it should listen to what the groom wants. Why would this even be questioned , makes no sense to me.

@natedawg - totally hear you on the being sad thing, I'd bet the same way, those kind of feelings are nothing you should have to feel two days before your wedding.

Goodl luck with it!

aerinpegadrak

As far as DH's bachelor party, he didn't have one.  But if he'd had one, it probably would have involved a strip club.  And honestly, I don't care.  For one thing, the bachelor party is ALWAYS more for the other guys than for the groom, unless the groom is a total sleaze.  It's more about embarrassing the groom than about trying to get him some action.  And for another, we have a very clear understanding of "Look, but don't touch."  I trust him completely, and I know that I'm the one he's going to come home to all riled up and horny.  I'm not comfortable with private strippers because that's kind of sketchy and a liability, but in a legitimate public establishment, I don't care at all.  In fact, we have plans to hit a few together for research (a spec script we're working on has several scenes that take place in a strip club), we just haven't had time. 

I did express concern that some of the guys in our family wanted to take him to a strip club the night before the wedding, but that was because I didn't want either of us out too late, because (and this might be TMI) we'd been joking for so long about having wedding morning sex that I was really looking forward to it.  If everyone had been able to get into town early enough for them to do it a couple of nights before the wedding, it wouldn't have been an issue.  The wives probably would have all gone along, come to think of it.  We're all pretty comfortable with ourselves and our relationships.

MeatAuditor

Why is it that bachelor parties are totally about the groomsmen in most cases?  It's more like an excuse for the groomsmen to give their girlfriends than anything.  I can just hear them now.  "But honey, I have to go to the strip club!  It's for his bachelor party!  It's what everyone else wanted to do, and I'm only going because I'm such good friends with the groom."  Yeah right. 

I don't care what they do as long as there's nobody touching my FI  or getting arrested.

Natedawg71

Meat auditor- I agree, it's the touching that disgusts me! They can see more on the porn their friends send them! If it was a random girl in a club it would be cheating but because she's a professional, it's different! Boo!

vfriday

The party is rarely about the groom.  It is an excuse for the groomsmen to hang out and do their thing.  Chances are good they will still have what they consider a rucus good time in Vegas. 

specialjune

I honestly dont believe that it is right to put restrictions on his party, but to to each her own. I would trust my fiance to do the right thing and not let a stripper take it too far with him. The stripper should be the last thing on your mind on your wedding day. I can see why his friends are annoyed, but they will get over it.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]As far as DH's bachelor party, he didn't have one.  But if he'd had one, it probably would have involved a strip club.  And honestly, I don't care.  For one thing, the bachelor party is ALWAYS more for the other guys than for the groom, unless the groom is a total sleaze.  It's more about embarrassing the groom than about trying to get him some action.  And for another, we have a very clear understanding of "Look, but don't touch."  I trust him completely, and I know that I'm the one he's going to come home to all riled up and horny.  I'm not comfortable with private strippers because that's kind of sketchy and a liability, but in a legitimate public establishment, I don't care at all.  In fact, we have plans to hit a few together for research (a spec script we're working on has several scenes that take place in a strip club), we just haven't had time.  I did express concern that some of the guys in our family wanted to take him to a strip club the night before the wedding, but that was because I didn't want either of us out too late, because (and this might be TMI)<strong> we'd been joking for so long about having wedding morning sex that I was really looking forward to it.</strong>  If everyone had been able to get into town early enough for them to do it a couple of nights before the wedding, it wouldn't have been an issue.  The wives probably would have all gone along, come to think of it.  We're all pretty comfortable with ourselves and our relationships.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]


Morning sex?? Well damn we are not going to see each other before the wedding!!!


But eh, bachelor party is a bachelor party, my girls realllly wanted to go to thunder down under or something, but that is TOTALLY not me.. I know FI does not want to do anything at all so I guess I just don't know where you are coming from, but if they want to go to s strip club they will go, they just might not tell you before hand.

Maybe instead of telling them absolutely no strip clubs, maybe you could have your girls thing, their guys thing, and you guys meet up later for drinks, so at least you can ease your mind to know you will see him in a few hours. I hope you guys can figure something out so his friends don't hate you and you are comfortable with their choices.

j_jaye

The way I see it is like this...I would prefer someone getting paid (ie a stripper) putting her hands on my FI than some random at a club (which is very likely in Vegas especially if they are on a bachelor night). The stripper is being paid...she is faking it..she will not try and sleep with your FI (unless someone pays her and hopefully your FI has enough class to say no) where as some women see it as sport to snag a groom before his wedding!

I think it also comes down to how much you trust your FI. I have no problem with my FI going to a strip club or party with strippers. We have discussed the boundaries and he knows what is a deal breaker and I trust that he will not cross that line. And if he does he knows the consequences. 

direy25

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[QUOTE]The way I see it is like this...I would prefer someone getting paid (ie a stripper) putting her hands on my FI than some random at a club (which is very likely in Vegas especially if they are on a bachelor night). The stripper is being paid...she is faking it..she will not try and sleep with your FI (unless someone pays her and hopefully your FI has enough class to say no) where as some women see it as sport to snag a groom before his wedding! I think it also comes down to how much you trust your FI. I have no problem with my FI going to a strip club or party with strippers. We have discussed the boundaries and he knows what is a deal breaker and I trust that he will not cross that line. And if he does he knows the consequences. 
Posted by j_jaye[/QUOTE]
All well said.  Also, I just don't think it's "fair" to tell your FI that he can't have his b-party in Vegas, since you're getting married IN VEGAS.  Here's my question - would it be different if you were having a wedding at home but the guys traveled to Vegas for the bachelor party? 

ETA - what are the plans for your bachelorette party?  I know my MOH really wants to have something with half-naked guys for mine...

j_jaye

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[QUOTE] ETA - what are the plans for your bachelorette party?  I know my MOH really wants to have something with half-naked guys for mine...
Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

HAHA forget my MOH...I want half naked men! Whats good for the goose is good for the gander!

vegasgroom

OP, has your FI even said that what he plans to do is go get ridiculous at a strip club for his bachelor party?  It sounds like you have more of either a trust or self esteem issue than anything else; i.e. trust because it sounds like you think the only thing your FI is capable of doing at a strip club is something completely inappropriate, or self esteem because for some reason you're threatened by dumb strippers.  If you get over it and let him do what he wants, knowing (hopefully) that the guy you'll be marrying two days later is more responsible than it sounds like he's getting credit for, then everyone will be a lot happier in the end.

If my FI gave me an ultimatum that I can't have a bacehlor party in a specific place or involving certain activities, I'd have an issue with it; not because I don't like being told what to do, but because she shouldn't be marrying me if she doesn't trust my judgement on what is inappropiriate or disrespectful to her enough that she has to define what I should be doing.  Yes, I have been to strip clubs with friends from time to time, and contrary to popular belief, I had no desire to have sex in the champagne room.

Natedawg71

Wow-this post isn't doing anything for my self-esteem! Bottom line, it's going to make me sad regardless of when fiancé does his party. I wish it didn't but I can't help who I am or how I feel. Fiancé has known me for 15 years when he met me at church youth group. I think he knows who I am by now. I simply asked for a compromise to have the party at home the week before so I can only have happy thoughts at our wedding. If that makes me "that fiancé", I guess i'll deal with it.

impslave

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[QUOTE]If he wants to go out and hang with his friends in Vegas, I'm totally cool with that.<strong> It's not the going out, it's the strippers 2 days before I marry him.</strong> I know I'll be hurt and sad the next day and I don't want that on my wedding weekend. I want to look at him with love! If he has it here, he can have strippers and I'll have a week or two to get over it. Ps- they didn't have plans already made.
Posted by Natedawg71[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So if it was three days before, it would be okay?</div><div>
</div><div>What difference does it make if he has strippers at a party a week before or two days before?  Honestly, you are acting paranoid over something completely inconsequential.  My H had his party here in Vegas (no choice since we live here) two days before our wedding.  When he came home that night, he told me everything that happened, including the lap dance my brother bought for him.  And we laughed.</div><div>
</div><div>The damage is done, but it's kind of petty that you even went there in the first place.</div><div>

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wiwicaty

OP - I don't think you're acting paranoid. You have an honest issue with something and I can see why. You're simply asking that whatever your FI does he doesn't do it so close to the wedding because it hurts you. Seems pretty reasonable to me and doesn't sound like an abominable restriction. It's a matter of respecting the other, that's what loving couples do. If my FI asked me not to have a bachelorette party (not that I'm having one) that includes naked guys during the time we'll spend in Vegas before our wedding I'd say "of course!".

My FI and I are flying to Vegas two days before and we wouldn't ever want to be apart in those 48 hours leading to the wedding. This is how we like it and I agree with you.

IMHO laughing over the lap dance some random chick did for your future husband (in two days) doesn't make anyone emancipated and/or happy. Some men need that and some others want their FI only to do a lap dance for them before "making" her a wife. To each their own.

junebug61103

OP..I can see where you are coming from. I wouldn't have told him "no your not doing this___" but more expressed concerns and explained how you felt. We have planned the bachelor/bachelorette parties on Thurs night and then a combined thing on Fri night (night before wedding). We also plan to stay in the same room together Fri night and wake up together day of wedding (**aerin**). My issue is not so much the strip clubs but just not going to bed together the night before. We have lived together for 3+ years and I know Im going to be nervous anyway, having him next to me will help. Ive told my FI I really don't like the strip club thing and FI never goes, he knows it will probably just start a fight and honestly hes too damn cheap haha). I really think him and his friends will honor my feelings. Especially since I didn't say "No, your not doing this". Boys are just like kids, when you tell them "no", they probably are going to do it anyway just to spite you. I would honestly talk with BM/GM (if you are close) and explain yourself. If you don't come off as "bitchy" he just may listen to you. Good Luck!

Natrasha

I had been preparing myself for the bach party to include a strip club, and when FI told me he didn't really want that, no lie, I was thrilled. I'm kind of an insecure person, especially about my looks, and the idea of a woman who looks like a porn star rubbing all over him while his friends cheer him on isn't an image I want to pop into my head as I'm putting my dress on or anything.

My advice: The more you push against it, the more his groomsmen are going to want to do it more.
Take a little comfort in the fact that they will be at a public licensed business. It would be worse if they were partying in a hotel suite, because WHO KNOWS what can happen there.
Plan something that gets you and your friends out that night- dancing, show, etc.
Meet up somewhere afterwards (this was part of our plan from the beginning)- We are having dinner, guys & girls all together. Then around 1 or 2 am, we'll all meet at a bar and finish the night together (we are thinking Shadow Bar at Caesars)

Natedawg71

Thank you to the last 3 posters for your words. I was beginning to regret my post as I was only feeling worse with all the negative comments about me being petty and that girl. I definitely don't want to come across as bitchy because despite what others may be thinking I'm not. I'm not trying to control or dictate his party, I want him to have fun just not stripper fun in vegas. If it's so inconsequential, then it shouldn't matter where he does it so long as he does it. Anyway, if you don't have anything nice to say or constructive, please don't say it. I wish I could relax about strippers but they bother me and I can't change that. It doesn't help me to hear that I'm wrong for thinking a certain way. I think this is like politics, everyone has an opinion and maybe it's best not discussed in public!! I will keep future posts limited to dresses and flowers!

Silverlegacyga

Frankly I dont want my FI to have strippers either. But what I dont know it doesnt hurt. He was just in vegas for his brothers bachelors party, and what happened there is what happened. Guys will be guys, get over it. If the best man orders a stripper then its your FI's prerogative to say no. I know my Fi and his brothers got really drunk, won lots of money, and I know for a fact that they didnt have to pay for a stripper when they could have gotten it for free. It doesnt bother me, though Id rather them not have it, its their night not mine. Is it really worth getting into an argument over something so small? Not in my opinion.

direy25

OP, I'm sorry but you posted a question and asked for opinions on a public message board. Please don't tell people how to post just because you didn't get the opinions you wanted. People were being constructive, even though they didn't "have something nice to say." I'm sorry that this is going to make you sad. I'll be completely honest and say that I don't like the idea of FI's bachelor party including strippers either, but I know I'll get over it. He's probably not super excited about me seeing a bunch of nicely chiseled, half naked guys either, but he'll get over it too. Two days later we're getting married, and that's all that matters and I'm sure that strippers will be the one thing l won't be thinking about on our wedding day. ** edited for clarification

drkarie

This is just my two cents on this issue...but really, if you've shared your feelings with your FI on this issue (regardless of which way you lean on the stripper issue) isn't it your FI's job to listen and try to respect your feelings?  It's not about who is right or who is wrong. I mean I know my FI and I are not going to agree on every issue, but I guess I do have an expectation that when something is truely going to hurt my feelings and I've clearly communicated that to him, he should respect that and do everything in his power to avoid hurting me.  I would do the same for him.  It sounds to me that your FI was trying to do everything in his power to make you feel more comfortable, so obviously he wants to respect your feelings.  Girl, focus on the fact that you have one heck of FI, screw all his friends.  I wouldn't spend one more minute worrying about what they thought of me.  Your FI's opinion is the one that really matters.

smokeybailey

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[QUOTE]OP, has your FI even said that what he plans to do is go get ridiculous at a strip club for his bachelor party?  It sounds like you have more of either a trust or self esteem issue than anything else; i.e. trust because it sounds like you think the only thing your FI is capable of doing at a strip club is something completely inappropriate, or self esteem because for some reason you're threatened by dumb strippers.  If you get over it and let him do what he wants, knowing (hopefully) that the guy you'll be marrying two days later is more responsible than it sounds like he's getting credit for, then everyone will be a lot happier in the end. If my FI gave me an ultimatum that I can't have a bacehlor party in a specific place or involving certain activities, I'd have an issue with it; not because I don't like being told what to do, but because she shouldn't be marrying me if she doesn't trust my judgement on what is inappropiriate or disrespectful to her enough that she has to define what I should be doing.  Yes, I have been to strip clubs with friends from time to time, and contrary to popular belief, I had no desire to have sex in the champagne room.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]


No matter what anyone tells you, there is no sex in the champagne room.

bcschuman

I can see this issue from both ends and have experiences from both ends.  I personally do not mind the strippers for a lot of the reasons listed above but for the most part it is because I trust my FI and his decisions.  What I am worried about is that he gets so wasted that he passes out somewhere and ends up jail!

I think about myself going out for my bachelorette party and what my "goals" are for that night... simply to have fun and have a night with the girls.  I can understand if one of the GMs is a terd and wants to make this into a sex fest, then yes I would be uncomfortable but you have to trust that your FI wants to do the same thing as you and that is to simply have fun with his buddies.  As someone posted above... strippers are fake, they don't want your FI, they want his money and the other guys money... if they wanted to land a guy like your FI, they probably would have a different choice of career.  Plus... for a guy to cheat on his fiance with a stripper... well that is a SPECIAL KIND OF STUPID in my book .

stinkerbell6879

Well not going to lie, I had the same initial reaction w/ my DH when it came to this topic. BUT. I learned that the more I pushed the more I was making myself upset and making the boys want to go out more. So WAY before the actual wedding I let it go and in the end it prevented fights, and the guys did not think of me as the evil FI. They went out and DH got smashed and did not even make into the strip club, but ended back at our room sleeping it off