So you guys are non-judgy and not in my social circle or family and I'm really needing to vent...
In FI family there are 3 kid birthdays one right after another in Oct and then of course Halloween. In past years we end up driving all over the city etc every weekend for each kid's party (and usually it's pretty last minute, as I've mentioned before FI fam is not so great at the planning/rsvping). One of these Oct bday kids is my stepdaughter (or soon-to-be). I thought, 'hey her cousin is only a two year difference (he's older) maybe a joint party would be appropriate/nice for the grown ups to be able to celebrate both kids at once'. I contacted his mom who seemed up for it but then I found out said cousin has been living with his grandparents for months. I contacted the grandma (and still attempted to keep his mom in the loop since I don't know what that whole situation is) and everyone seemed to think it was a good idea. I asked his fav color and planned the invite with both their fav colors and we planned to have seperate cakes for each kiddo.
So I started trying to come up with tween ideas for the kids that wouldn't break the bank- we had offered to pay since it was our idea and Cousin rarely gets a bday party or it's always thrown together 2 days and we were planning to pay for stepdaughter's party anyway and 80% of the invited were joint family/FI's family.
I know my stepdaughter enjoys playing Xbox and I know cousin is always playing on his Xbox. Found a video game place (Xbox and computer) with a restuarant right next door in the shopping center. Contacted the grandma who said she'd ask the boy. Got the ok (at least I thought I did) and planned the thing. Fast forward to today- on the Facebook event page the grandma posted the Cousin didn't want to hurt my feelings but he doesn't like computer games and wants something more low-key'. Ok, fine but why am I just now hearing about this? I understand that's possible; that cousin wasn't into it but wasn't sure how to express it. And why did you have to post it on the facebook event page for eveyone to see- I feel like that makes me look like the
jack-@ss who didn't take into account their thoughts on the whole joint party when I asked cousin, mom and grandma before planning. You couldn't send a text?
Also, with FI's family there's a bit of back story that I find kind of important...Fi's nephew lived with us for a year (he just turned 3). We raised him, taught him and loved him like our own and he was abruptly taken back. I had planned his 3rd bday party while he was still with us, his dad took him back but we chose to still proceed with the party... I just don't want to be the crazy lady trying to throw everyone's kid's bdays LOL.
If you made it this far thanks. Oh! And I posted a FB status saying the party was cancelled that the kids would celebrate seperately not really thinking about my extended family who I didn't include. Oooops....and the Ahole award goes to....Frankenstien.
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