Poll on Gift Registry

[Deleted User]

Hey ladies-

Ok, so I am having this dilemma where I am unsure as to whether or not I should have a gift registry.

The reasons for the dilemma are 1) ALL my guests are coming from out of town, so I feel it doesn't make sense to include a registry card (why would they want to travel with a set of plates they purchased, etc.?) 2) For the people who end up not being able to make it, if they are gracious enough to send anything at all- are they really going to want to send me something from my registry since it involves packing, shipping, etc., or just a check?

I hope this doesn't sound silly- I just don't want to feel like I'm pressuring anyone with a gift registry when my wedding is already a destination wedding. Opinions please! TIA!

ahhhitsshannyn

I think that you should still register just in case anyone wants to send you a gift directly or bring it with them to give it to you in person.

But you should not include the registry information along with your invites, it should only be word of mouth.

smokeybailey

Placing the registry in an invitation is simply bad manners - destination or not.  You should register for at least some things for those that do not like to give cash and spread the word to your immediate family and BM's as well as list it on your website.  People who want to buy you a some "thing" will ask ask around to find out where you are registered.

erinkay81

Do not put them on the invites. Smokey said it best above. Not proper.

queenklm33

Don't include it on the invites.  But yes register!  For the people that want to sent gifts, it gives them some idea as to what you "need"  Otherwise you will end up with a bunch of random items/gift cards.

jendbiker

I would absolutely register. Mostly because if guests DO want to be generous it will make it much more convenient for them. The same thoughts went through my mind when I first started looking at invitations. I would register, and either go ahead and include it in your invitation in a very subtle manner. Another option would be instead of including a registry card, you could just state somewhere that "If you would like our registry information, please email ______@_____ or contact the couple." This way, you are letting them know that you ARE registered, but I think this approach gives the impression that gifts are not an expectation. 

LilMissScareAll

Everyone else said this, but it's bad E to put registry information in the invite. If you are doing a wedding website, you can put the info on there somewhere. Put the website on your STDs or an insert in your invite. Otherwise, you have to use good ol' fashioned word of mouth.

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We would prefer to get $$ if people want to give us a gift (we really need new furniture, not dishes) but we are going to do a smaller registry: new sheets, some accesories for my KitchenAid mixer, a couple odds and ends that I need in the kitchen (I to cook, so I've been upgrading my kitchen since Ben & I moved in together). Some people just like to give gifts and I want them to have an idea of what we would want then get a bunch of lace doilies and tea cozies.

BTW: most people will not bring the gifts to the wedding, they will send them beforehand. Store websites will let them purchase and ship the items directly to your house.

guamibear

I would register if you need things. We have been receiving gifts beforehand from our registry. I think our guests have appreciated the convenience of being able to go online to choose a gift to send if they are looking to send a gift.  

I love it when people make registries. I don't want to have to guess what they need especially if I don't see them regularly because they may live far away. I have always tried to add fun extras to the gift, but it cuts down on confusion on what to get the couple if they have a registry.

aegrish

create a small registry in case people ask, but you should definitely not include registry information in the invites. never.

ebonyivory10

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_poll-gift-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:b785f8ad-69e8-429d-a7a9-8a5af6132442Post:3e21c26f-fc07-49b4-a193-0b597665ffd5">Re: Poll on Gift Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>BTW: most people will not bring the gifts to the wedding, they will send them beforehand. Store websites will let them purchase and ship the items directly to your house.
</strong>Posted by LilMissScareAll[/QUOTE]

As many have said, don't include a registry card with the invitations.  And ditto the above, most will have the gift shipped beforehand.

smokeybailey

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_poll-gift-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:b785f8ad-69e8-429d-a7a9-8a5af6132442Post:c8209afd-34b0-4e18-bfbd-d9f0beafe332">Re: Poll on Gift Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I would absolutely register. Mostly because if guests DO want to be generous it will make it much more convenient for them. The same thoughts went through my mind when I first started looking at invitations. I would register, and either go ahead and include it in your invitation in a very subtle manner. Another option would be instead of including a registry card, you could just state somewhere that "If you would like our registry information, please email ______@_____ or contact the couple." This way, you are letting them know that you ARE registered, but I think this approach gives the impression that gifts are not an expectation. 
Posted by jendbiker[/QUOTE]

Don't do this either.  There is still the assumption of purchase here, which is bad etiquette.  People will find your registry if intereste no need to include anything about it in your invite.

kara811

You can still have even a small registry, but like PPs said, do not put the information anywhere on your invites. 

[Deleted User]

Thank you for all of your input!

I have received wedding invites in the past where they included a registry card (a couple actually) which I was kind of unbiased about. I really didn't think anything bad of it... but wasn't overjoyed that it was there.

That was a few years back before I ever imagined getting married to my prince charming though, so thats why I needed second opinions. I think I will stick with just including it on my website.. if I have a website at all. Thanks again!