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Wedding Gift...

Hi Vegas Ladies!
I am wondering how you Ladies are doing the Registry?
I am currently living abroad. I was not originally going to do one.
My Mom insisted i should have another option for ppl. My FI and I would rather have a Card, Money or just be honored with attendance!
I am doing a Bridal Shower with more focus on PJS, Bras & a few items for the Kitchen and this is a Registry...
SO
The question is should i skip the Registry on the Wedding Invitation? I am most certain i will btw.
What are you ladies doing?
Just some thoughts...?
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Re: Wedding Gift...

  • aegrishaegrish member
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    edited December 2011

    so you ARE registered somewhere?

    Either way don't say anything about the registry in the actual invitation.  Include it on your wedding website or advise people by word of mouth.  Believe me people will ask.  A small registry MAY suggest to guests that you prefer cash, but then again some may go out and buy random gifts.  However you should not actually say anything regarding your gift preference unless specifically asked, and even then try and say something like "well we are saving for ____".  Whatever you do do not send out registry cards with invites!

  • edited December 2011
    This is what we have put on our wedding website

    Since several of you have asked we just wanted to clarify we are not having a wedding registry. Since all of you are traveling such a far distance at a great expense we consider your presence on our day as our presents! And we are so thankful to have you share our special day with us.

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  • edited December 2011
    We created a couple registries for about 60 items total and invited about 160 people. We just put our wedding website on our save the date and then put our registry information on the website. I wouldn't put the actual registry information on the save the date or  invitations unless its in the form of sending people ot a website for more information about the wedding in general. Also let your parents know and they can spread the word if people ask.
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  • edited December 2011
    I registered like I would have if I had a large wedding. I had a bridal shower and most gifts were off my registry. Also, it was nice to use it like a list once my wedding was over + we got a percentage off.
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  • edited December 2011
    If you just want cash options.. you can use a registry such as ourwishingwell.com or uponourstar.com....
  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    Here's the thing: People are going to give the gifts that appeal to them.  Those who are inclined to give cash gifts will do so unprompted.  Those who would prefer to get you a physical gift will appreciate having a little direction so they know they're spending their money on something you will like and need.  I think a small registry would be a good idea.

    But nothing about the wedding registry ever goes on the invitation, regardless of circumstances.
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  • edited December 2011
    We are not doing a registry...like Sin when anyone asks we say that their presence is present enough.
  • lsvenssonlsvensson member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm in the same boat as you-- we would MUCH prefer cash gifts, as FI and I have been living together for years now and don't need too much.  We are registering (and putting that info as a tab on our wedding website, but nowhere on the STD or invitation) at JC Penney, Macy's, and Honyfund.com, which is a cash registry designed to allow your guests to contribute to specific elements of your honeymoon (i.e., instead of just handing you $100 in cash, Cousin Mary can give you $100 earmarked for a horseback ride on the beack in O'ahu or something).

    Whatever you do-- do NOT mention Honyfund or any other HM registry to the brides on the Registry board.  You will get your ear chewed off about how it's tacky and rude.  Do whatever you think will work for your situation-- you know your guests best.  
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wedding-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:c1b10c2e-7987-4085-b5cc-fcb044b48bdaPost:5d907206-15df-4fe3-ad54-8c57fb79d3b0">Re: Wedding Gift...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I registered like I would have if I had a large wedding. I had a bridal shower and most gifts were off my registry. Also, it was nice to use it like a list once my wedding was over + we got a percentage off.
    Posted by dvohnout[/QUOTE]

    This, except I did not have a shower. My family from overseas purchased a gift and had it delivered to our house, one used paypal, and most people gave gifts or money at the wedding. I think you should definitely have a registry, people want to give you a gift and some people want to give money. It is easier to just have a registry so that way people can pick and choose what THEY like FOR you. As Aerin said, people will buy what appeases them, but if its on your registry at least you like it!

    Also ditto PPs, do not put it in with your invites, people will ask if they want to give you gifts.
  • mizutamababymizutamababy member
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    edited December 2011
    We don't have a registry and FI and I live abroad in Japan.  It's custom to only give cash at a wedding here and FI's family/other Japanese guests would be confused if it were any different. (registries don't even exist on our side of the world)

    We won't write anything on the invitations naturally, but we put that we're accepting donations if you want to give a gift on our website and the website address got mailed out with the STDs.  We're going to have bride and groom piggys and a cardbox for anyone who wants to give cash gifts and/or cards. The only people attending our wedding are close family/friends and this was something that was agreed upon as best between our families.  I would not have chosen this option had we been inviting a large number of people or if my FI had not been Japanese, though.

    We won't be mad if someone doesn't give us a cash gift because we're just happy if all our guests can come and celebrate, but we will be kind of like WTF if someone gives us this huge ass random thing that we have to pay extra to lug back with us to Japan instead of a card or something small, lol.

    I don't know what kind of family situation you're in...  If ya'lls families would be OK with a cash registry, why not?  Try not to worry too much about what people besides those coming to your wedding will think.  Only you know your guests best.  Sometimes I have a good laugh at some of the brides/brides-to-be who are so big on latching onto old etiquette and tradition, but yet still got up/will march up there in a white dress despite whether or not they were/are still "pure" or not.
  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    edited December 2011
    Please don't register for cash, that is beyond tacky.  It is in bad taste to ask for cash.  If your family traditionally gives cash, there is no need to ask for it.  Additionally, do not include registry info in your invitation; it is bad etiquette. 

    Also, I am 39 and have been on my own for almost 20 years now.  FI and I have lived together for 4 years and own a home together.  We assumed that there would be nothing we could possibly register, but we were wrong.  There are so many useful, beautiful and great things to add to our household.  New dishes, flatware, serving items, decanters, appliances, little items for the kitchen, new plush towels, Egyptian cotton 800 thread count sheets, vases, serving platters/bowls and so on.   We didn't even have to consider a second store.  We were able to register for probably $5K worth of stuff at Macy's.

    Feel free to not register but do not be surprised if you end up with a Precious Moments figurine or a garden gnome.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wedding-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:c1b10c2e-7987-4085-b5cc-fcb044b48bdaPost:970d20a2-1289-40f6-bf94-207e1e7aef13">Re: Wedding Gift...</a>:
    [QUOTE] Feel free to not register but do not be surprised if you end up with a Precious Moments figurine or a garden gnome.
    Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

    LOL that's awesome...and true :p


    Like Sin715 I've also expressed that the presence of our guests means more to us than any gift or amount of money. I've been with my Fi for 11 years and already feel married...this is just to make it offical so we can have kids without the parents freaking. I'm sure that some of my family and even some friends will give us a gift or money, which we will graciously accept...but I made no register or mention of presentation.

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