Guest Gone Bad

Venetian10

The original date for our wedding was 10/16/10, but we postponed it until 10/15/11. We sent out our STD in August 2010 for our old wedding date. Should I give out new STD for our new wedding date 10/15/11? Also, some of the people we invited originally, we don't want to invite them now. Is this rude?

direy25

First, you definitely need to send out some sort of announcement that you are postponing your wedding so that people do not continue to make plans to attend the 10/2010 wedding. 

Put yourself in your "uninvited guests'" shoes:  If you received a STD for a wedding, then found out it was being postponed but now you're not invited, wouldn't you be offended? 

kteel717

So everyone knows it was cancelled? 10/16/10 has come and gone....
I would send out a new announcement and proper etiquette would be to yes invite those you already sent the old save the dates too. I don't know the whole background though, so it might be an extenuating circumstance...

vegasgroom

If you sent someone an STD, you invited them; not sending a new STD and invite is the same as telling them they're not welcome at your wedding, which you may as well do if you no longer want to maintain those friendships and get it out of the way now.

I'm sure it's normal to do so but I personally think it seems kind of weird to send a new STD if you've already changed the date once; guests are going to get the new one and think oh, a save the date, maybe the wedding will happen this time.

I'd just send the invites early, and to the same list as before with anyone new you want to add added and no one removed.

Venetian10

Yes, we notified all of our guest about the postponement.  Some of the people we invited don't even speak to us anymore. These are co workes I'm talking about. Does your opinion change about still inviting them?

direy25

It must be Monday because I didn't even catch the dates - I was thinking 2011 & 2012...

My thought is that if these people were important enough to invite in the first place, they should still be invited, especially if they were notified about the postponement. 

LilMissScareAll

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_guest-gone-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:cafa550f-9658-4029-9b4d-92883aa4de5aPost:b5ccb409-a450-4980-b4c2-80227ddaca77">Re: Guest Gone Bad</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, we notified all of our guest about the postponement.  Some of the people we invited don't even speak to us anymore. These are co workes I'm talking about. Does your opinion change about still inviting them?
Posted by Venetian10[/QUOTE]

Do you still work with people/ have contact? If so, invite them. Proper E is better than looking like a rude a$$hole, when you have to go back and interact with these people. If your not so close, they would probably decline anyway.
Uninviting people will basically sever any relationship with them, so the ONLY way I would understand is if you only invited them b/c they were your co-worker and they no longer are(for whatever reason) and you don't plan being in contact with them again. EVER. But it is still rude.

MNVegas

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_guest-gone-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:cafa550f-9658-4029-9b4d-92883aa4de5aPost:b5ccb409-a450-4980-b4c2-80227ddaca77">Re: Guest Gone Bad</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, we notified all of our guest about the postponement.  Some of the people we invited don't even speak to us anymore. These are co workes I'm talking about. Does your opinion change about still inviting them?
Posted by Venetian10[/QUOTE]

Personally I would not send out another set of STDs, just in case you change things yet again. If you do send them, then you should send to everyone on your original list. If you are not speaking to these people, then they probably won't want to go to your wedding anyway, but at least you won't look bad for not inviting them.

aerinpegadrak

They still need to be invited. If you aren't close anymore, it's not likely they'll make the trip.