we are NOT getting married in 3 weeks...and the world comes crashing down

mexicomatch

We were supposed to get married 3/28.  I got a facebook message from a girl (an ex-high school flame) of my FI.  I didn't believe it at first, and even told him that she contacted me.  Of course he wouldn't cheat!  Well, I spoke to her, and she was able to describe MY house.  FI still denied it, but I made him go into his email acct- - I found emails from about a year ago, sexual in nature.  He admitted that he "f-ed around w/ her" but said it was just over email.  Has denied any other contact w/ her.

For some reason, I believe this woman I have never met before.  I even talked to her husband over the phone who says he wished it were not true because it is ruining his life.  At first I thought, she is just doing this out of revenge, but we are in our 30's, so high school was a long time ago! 

I talked to you yesterday, about an hour before his family threw my my wedding shower.  That was a nice acting job on my part. 

I cannot believe this.  What an a-hole. Still denying it. AND- wondering WHY I won't marry him- he doesn't think this is something NOT to get married over!  I hope I can get some of my money back from MB!

ebonyivory10

Oh I'm so sorry!  

I guess it's better you find out now than down the road! Men are stupid.

j_jaye

So sorry to hear ! Look after yourself and your babies. It might be hard to hear but it is way better to hear now than later. My thoughts are with you.

jccswl

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you'll find a resolution that works best for you and your babies.

Kmills811

I'm so sorry you have to go through this! Like PP said, better to find out now then later. You are much better then him - keep your chin up!

stinkerbell6879

I am sorry to hear this ;( and stay strong and I will say this as a person who has gone threw this with an Ex-FI..... things will get better.

Olivea12

I am so sorry to hear this.  Take care of yourself.

ellenalabama

OMG!  How awful!  I'm so sorry to hear this.  Men can be awful.  Random thought tho, maybe you can use hotel room and airfare and take a girlfriend to Vegas anyway?  It might help you to clear your head and get away from the drama?

edotf104

I'm so sorry you have to go through this-- it's terrible! But good for you for sticking to your guns and calling off the wedding. You deserve MUCH better treatment than that. I hope you are getting all the support you need at home... and I agree with PPs, you have to do what's right for you and your babies. You'll get through and you'll be better for it.

pumpkinberry22

I am so so sorry. Everything works out for the best though

keana123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_not-getting-married-3-weeksand-world-comes-crashing-down?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:dc86bd4c-3d72-42a0-990c-f0d0a04d16baPost:46533f8b-13f8-4fcc-97dc-1717053f391b">Re: we are NOT getting married in 3 weeks...and the world comes crashing down</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG!  How awful!  I'm so sorry to hear this.  Men can be awful.  Random thought tho, maybe you can use hotel room and airfare and take a girlfriend to Vegas anyway?  It might help you to clear your head and get away from the drama?
Posted by ellenalabama[/QUOTE]

You should totally do what Ellena suggested and go blow off some steam in Vegas with your girlfriends.  I am so sorry this is happening to you but better now than later.

melissaandjosh418

I'm so sorry sweetie. Believe me I know from past experience how awful you feel Hang in there, things will get better!

melissaandjosh418

And remember...always trust your gut, if you feel he cheated as awful as it is he probally did

guamibear

Oh my goodness. Kudos to you for being strong and doing what is right. Better to know now instead of after you've walked down the aisle.   I am sincerely sorry for what you're going through.  Stay strong sweetie. You should treat yourself to some kind of vacation regardless. You deserve it.

MNVegas

Sorry that you have to go through this, but believe me in the long run, your life will be much better. Stay strong.

Holly520

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening.  LIke the other ladies said its better to do know now than later.  Look out for you and your babies.

MelissaE2010

I am so, so sorry to hear this, but you are correct to listen to your gut.  When I married my ex husband, there were rumors running rampant that he was cheating on me with a girl at work (restaurant job).  I denied it to myself even though I  knew in my heart it was true.  Sure enough, about a year after we got married he was cheating on me with her again and she was able to describe my house, right down to the wedding photo next to the tv in our bedroom (yes, she actually had the nerve to point out the wedding photo when describing my bedroom to me!).  Needless to say, we are now divorced and in October I'm marrying the true love of my life.

I know this hurts you and I actually can imagine your feelings about this happening in your home.  Please take care of yourself. 

atlcatlover

Sending you hugs and good thoughts as you deal with this.  Stay strong!

meyerse

(Hugs) I'm so sorry you are going through this.

lndsy1213

Hope you are doing ok! I think you should also take a little time to yourself or with your girlfriends. YOU DESERVE IT! Just know everything will work out. So sorry you have to go through this. : ( Hugs.....