A few questions!

krismarie621

1. Did you girls have a bridal shower in your home town before the wedding, or did you just ex out that idea? If you had a shower, did you get gifts? I don't know the proper etiquette (sp) with this.....do we have a shower and do we register for gifts somewhere? Or better yet, do we even register for wedding gifts? I sort of feel it'd be tacky to do that, since people are already spending $$ to come to Vegas? Thoughts?

2. We were originally going to do a big wedding here, but then decided to do a Vegas wedding. For 2 reasons - one - we had a rough year, we watched my grandpa battle cancer and he lost the battle a couple of weeks ago, so we thought it'd be good to get the family out of town and 2, our wedding party became a disaster. We had originally verbally told a lot of people they'd be getting invites but now that it's a small, more intimate wedding, how do we go about telling those people that they aren't invited anymore? Do we even say anything? Ugh!

3. How far in advance did you order tuxs? We're getting married June 14th....should we order now?

And lastly....4....for those that bought their own booze for an in suite reception, how did you get it up to the suite? We're doing it in a Vista Suite at MB.

Thank you!

LilMissScareAll

1. You can register if you want. But since you're not supposed to throw your own shower, you can only accept/decline if someone offers to throw you one. Only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. People will buy you gifts if they want to. Most of the weddings I go to, I end up traveling across the country. I still give gifts.

2. That one is tough. I would maybe stop talking about your wedding and if anyone asks, explain that you've decided on a small, intimate wedding instead. If they're that close as to be invited to your wedding, I would think they know what your family has gone through in the past year. Hopefully they understand

3. No idea. Maybe call and ask how much time they recommend for ordering.

4. I would think you just carry it up. I watched a couple guys with a few cases of beer tied to the top of their rolling luggage go thru the lobby of MGM. I wouldnt worry about being sneaky or whatever

aerinpegadrak

1.  PP is right, you don't throw your own shower.  I didn't end up getting one because my family is so scattered, and I didn't want to make people travel twice.

2.  If you've asked anyone to be in your wedding, you really can't kick them out without ending the friendship.  It's a very public insult.  As far as attending, though, I would definitely stop talking about it, and if someone mentions it, you can say that you had to drastically cut back.  I lost track of how many times I used the phrase "immediate family and wedding party only" during my engagement.  In general, people will understand.

3.  Tuxes do not take long to order at all.  At MW, our deadline for getting the guys measured without extra fees was 2 weeks before the wedding.  I want to say DH made the reservation at 2 months, but I don't know, I wasn't really involved with it.

4.  Can't help you there, we hired a bartender.  However, we brought up food for our rehearsal lunch through bell services at MB without difficulty.

krismarie621

Thanks girls.

I know that you don't throw your own shower. I should have worded it better. My future sister in law asked me if she should throw one and I wasn't sure how to answer.

As far as our wedding party goes - we're only allowed 2 attendants on each side with our Roman package at Caesar's, so the easiest choice is my sister and future sister in law. As for the other ones that were going to be in our wedding - one can't afford to come to Vegas, one told us that if we don't go to their NYE party they refuse to come to our wedding (so friendship=ended), and then there were 2 more and I've talked to them and explained the situation and they're both totally fine with my sister and future sister in law being in it. Phew.

dvohnout

1. Yes I did have a bridal shower back "home." Well techniquelly it was about 1.5 hours away from home at the coast, but it was lovely. My bff hosted a bachelorette party & my cousin and godmother hosted a shower. Everyone who was invited to the shower was invited to our wedding. We registered just as if I would have been married in our hometown. I recieved lots of gifts at the shower.

2. I would be honest. Tell them your circumstance and that you had to cut back. They will understand.

3.Tuxedo you can wait a long time on. I think we ordered maybe 6 weeks before? But you can wait even longer than that.

4. My dad got booze from a drugstore & drove it to the hotel. My brother went to the store across the street and the really nice guy that worked there drove them back to MB. They were tipped nicely

wallacje

Thanks krismarie621 for asking this question, I was curious about registering and tuxes, my wedding is on June 11th, so I wanted to make sure FI doesn't procrastinate too long.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]Thanks girls. I know that you don't throw your own shower. I should have worded it better. My future sister in law asked me if she should throw one and I wasn't sure how to answer. As far as our wedding party goes - we're only allowed 2 attendants on each side with our Roman package at Caesar's, so the easiest choice is my sister and future sister in law. As for the other ones that were going to be in our wedding - one can't afford to come to Vegas, one told us that if we don't go to their NYE party they refuse to come to our wedding (so friendship=ended), and then there were 2 more and I've talked to them and explained the situation and they're both totally fine with my sister and future sister in law being in it. Phew.
Posted by krismarie621[/QUOTE]
Ah, okay, that makes sense on both fronts.  We weren't married in one of the chapels, so I didn't consider there being an ACTUAL limit on WP numbers (instead of the brides who say "We only want 5 each but I have 6 friends, so someone has to go").  You're in the etiquette clear.  If you're uncomfortable with the shower, you can always decline it.  A registry isn't a subpoena, it's meant to help your guests, so it's really never inappropriate to register for a wedding.  Since people will already be spending money to get there, they'll probably be spending less than they would otherwise on your gift, so make sure you have a good selection of stuff in lower price points.

krismarie621

You're welcome Wallace!

And yes, I was thinking we'll register for things $50 or under. That keeps it cost effective for everyone if they do want to get a gift.

Thank you everyone!

vegasgroom

Is bridal shower same as engagement party?  My FI and I had an engagement party that her parents threw for us at a local restaurant, we were surprised when many people brought gifts, didn't realize that was a gift giving event but apparently so, so we wrote a lot of thank you's and more importantly to keep in mind, it's proper etiquette to invite shower attendees to the wedding, so if you're wanting to keep it small, might be something to consider.