March 2012 Weddings

More invites/potential family drama - LONG

Ok, so I posted awhile back about my sister (who was going to be a BM) not being able to make it to the wedding because of a complicated pregnancy. I decided not to replace her and just have uneven sides.

My brother is also not coming to the wedding because his girlfriend is due like 4 days before our wedding. Both live out of state and I totally understand that their babies come first!

My parents live in Turkey and my youngest brother lives there with them. Apparently they're trying to figure out how they're going to afford to come back to the states since they were just here in May for my (pregnant) sister's wedding. First of all, we've had the date set since January 2011!! Second of all, this is the first I'm hearing about it. Ugh. I know it's expensive to travel internationally, but I wish they wouldn't have made it out the whole time like they were definitely coming. And now, my youngest brother is saying that he doesn't want to come back here at all for the wedding. Are you freaking kidding me??!! That means that 3 of my 5 siblings won't even be at our wedding.

I'm really just disappointed. I wish my parents had said from the beginning that it would be a struggle to get here. Maybe we could've picked a different date!! Either way, my youngest brother (who is almost 18) is just being a drama queen and I think he'll regret it later if he doesn't go. Hopefully at least my parents will figure out a way to get here...

So...family drama. My grandparents want me to invite the rest of my Turkish side of the family, which is only two people. The problem is that they had a falling out with my mom over a year ago and they haven't spoken since. My grandparents KNOW this and still don't see a problem with me inviting them.  I talked to my dad today and he thinks it'll be fine but he's gonna talk to my mom and see what she says. And here I thought I'd be able to have a wedding with no drama. Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant. Working is pissing me off too, so I'm just upset all around.

Re: More invites/potential family drama - LONG

  • edited January 2012
    I'm sorry that this is happening to you :(  Hopefully your parents and brother make it.  I am sure they realize how important this is to you.  I will keep my fingers crossed that it all works out!
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • What a bummer! I know how important family is and I'm sorry that your's can't make you more of a priority :(
  • I hope they'll be able to make it!!

    I know what you mean about trying to decide if you should invite family that has a falling out with your mom... my mom and her sister haven't talked for over 20 years (they had a falling out at my 4th birthday party!!).  If my mom was the one that instigated it and didn't try so hard to make things better, I would have invited her and my cousins but she has always acted like my siblings and I never existed.  No thanks, not interested in having that at my wedding!

    Hope it all works out for you and that your family will be able to come to the US to celebrate with you!!
    Anniversary
  • Oh that really stinks, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Hopefully your parents will find a way to make for the wedding.
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