My mom called last night to discuss dates for the shower. She mentioned that she thinks I should invite her FI's daughter to the wedding (I've been around her maybe a total of 10 times - she invited me to her wedding -verbally - but I had another wedding of really close friends on the same night so I did not go). What my mom doesn't think about is I can't just invite her - it will be her, her husband, my mom's FI's son and his parents. So that is at least another 5 people assuming his son isn't dating anyone. Thats an additional $450 just for the ceremony and reception alone. Not to mention favors, more cake, potentially another table I will need a centerpiece for.
She offered to pay for the daughter to come - but didn't think we needed to invite the son or her FI's parents. I know them all equally and I would feel bad inviting her and not the rest. I told her if she was willing to pay for them all then fine. But I need to know, and need the money because invites are going out in a month.
Our guestlist is currently at 106, and I know not everyone will come - but I was kind of planning on that to save us money. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and have recently bought a house so any extra money we don't have to pay for the wedding will be nice. I don't know if I should say no all together - or ask her how much she is willing to help out with if I invite them all.