Wedding Dress Panic

brittandjp

I'm totally starting to have freak out moments about my dress and it's not even here yet. I remember them saying it would take about 6 months and I thought I bought it in June, but I just looked at my receipt and I bought it May 27. So, technically, it's already been 6 months. I'm calling tomorrow. If I have the issues I've had with the BM dresses, I will seriously lose it.

Anyhow, I'm beginning to wonder if I chose the right one. I loved it the day I bought it, but I've gone back and forth with feeling like I bought it too soon. I bought it on the spur of the moment and at the first shop I went to. Whenever I watch SYTTD or glance through BRIDES, I see these gorgeous gowns and I second guess mine. I know I'm not supposed to look, but I'm addicted to the show and my magazines, so stopping isn't going to happen or fix the problem. It's the style I always wanted (a-line, dropped waist), but more simple than I always imagined. I feel like maybe it's missing something. Basically, I'm totally freaking out. I want it to be here, but at the same time, I kind of don't because I'm worried I will regret my decision. I worry that people will think it's too plain, not pretty enough, or they'll be disappointed. Some of JP's family, whom I love dearly, are ridiculously wealthy and/or prominent (millionaires, real estate moguls, mayor, etc.) and I worry what they'll think. Why, why, why do I let their non-existent, at least yet, opinions get to me? However, above all else and more than anything, I worry about JP having any of these feelings. I'm so worried that I'll walk down the aisle, he'll see me and hate my dress, although of course he'd never say that.I feel like I'm going to pick it up and just cry because it's not what I wanted after all.

Side note, I'm not posting this to look for sympathy or compliments. I'm just almost embarrassed in a sense to tell anyone else about these thoughts. I feel like some criticised me for buying it too soon and I don't want to hear, "I told you so." Literally, I've been going back and forth with these feelings for the last couple of months, but I haven't admitted them to anyone. So I really just needed to get it out, that's all.

kamarks08

Stop looking at magazines. That was my problem. Stop, stop, stop. Remember the reasons you picked that dress in the first place. Also, yes...call. One of my bridesmaid's dresses was in for over a month and they never contacted her. She called because she was worried and they were snippy that she hadn't picked it up yet. So it's good to call and check:)

elidellio

I'm sure you will feel better when you try it on again. As long as you feel good in it, you're going to look radiant and beautiful and perfect! If you feel like it needs a little something extra, I bet you can add something in alterations.

w+c3

Definetly call because that will keep bugging you!

And as far as the dress goes well my only advice is you really just have to wait to try it on. I'm sure that once you try it on again (I mean its been 6 months) that you will remember why you bought it. I had the same feelings before I tried my dress back on. And I just tried it on again Saturday and I could sit right now and watch SYTTD and second guess it yet again. I think its just our brains playing with us.  I've seen a few pictures of you and you are thin and beautiful. (Not trying to be pretentious or toot my own horn because I don't really feel this way about myself), but as one of the consultants said to me, your are thin and beautiful, every dress will look good on you. You just have to decide which one is best for you. 

My regret is that I never tried on one of those super popular dresses that have the tight corset top with the ballgown type skirt (the ones you always see with pockets). Well that kills me. Even though I didn't like any ballgowns I tried on.

Don't let others opinions or possible opinions drive your choice. No matter which dress you choose, someone will always not like it. And hopefully JPs family would have enough common courtesy not to say anything cruel to your face! Not that you want them to have thoughts in the first place, but you will truly never know. If you look beautiful and glow that is all anyone will be able to focus on. And rash decision or not a beautiful dress is a beautiful dress.

cmac3504

I'm having the same problem with the simplicity issue!!! When I was trying on dresses, I just wasn't a fan of the ones with all the beading, rouching, and everything going on..... so when I came across the one I ended up buying, I was nervous that it might be too plain!! But then I realized that I DO like simple.. and I'm excited to have my hair, make-up, and jewelry pop!  I can especially say this because I've had my dress for a few months now and every once in a while I try it on and realize I'm having irrational thoughts/ regrets.  I know this is MUCH easier said than done, but try to wait until you get it the dress before worrying too much!

tiffk10

I'm not going to lie, my dress is sitting in my closet as we speak, and I am having some second thoughts still. I am hoping when I go to my fitting in January and have all the bells and whistles (shoes, undergarments, pretty hair and make up) that I will fall in love with it again.

Try to relax (I know, easier said than done) and remember all the reasons you loved and picked your dress.

KH 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'm totally starting to have freak out moments about my dress and it's not even here yet. I remember them saying it would take about 6 months and I thought I bought it in June, but I just looked at my receipt and I bought it May 27. So, technically, it's already been 6 months. I'm calling tomorrow</strong>. If I have the issues I've had with the BM dresses, I will seriously lose it. Anyhow, I'm beginning to wonder if I chose the right one. :( I loved it the day I bought it, but I've gone back and forth with feeling like I bought it too soon. I bought it on the spur of the moment and at the first shop I went to. Whenever I watch SYTTD or glance through BRIDES, I see these gorgeous gowns and I second guess mine. I know I'm not supposed to look, but I'm addicted to the show and my magazines, so stopping isn't going to happen or fix the problem. It's the style I always wanted (a-line, dropped waist), but more simple than I always imagined. I feel like maybe it's missing something. Basically, I'm totally freaking out. I want it to be here, but at the same time, I kind of don't because I'm worried I will regret my decision. I worry that people will think it's too plain, not pretty enough, or they'll be disappointed. Some of JP's family, whom I love dearly, are ridiculously wealthy and/or prominent (millionaires, real estate moguls, mayor, etc.) and I worry what they'll think. Why, why, why do I let their non-existent, at least yet, opinions get to me? However, above all else and more than anything, I worry about JP having any of these feelings. I'm so worried that I'll walk down the aisle, he'll see me and hate my dress, although of course he'd never say that.I feel like I'm going to pick it up and just cry because it's not what I wanted after all. :( Side note, I'm not posting this to look for sympathy or compliments. I'm just almost embarrassed in a sense to tell anyone else about these thoughts. I feel like some criticised me for buying it too soon and I don't want to hear, "I told you so." Literally, I've been going back and forth with these feelings for the last couple of months, but I haven't admitted them to anyone. So I really just needed to get it out, that's all.
Posted by brittandjp[/QUOTE]

<div>i thought the same thing and i checked and saw i also bought my dress the last weekend in may! the tuxedo department of the bridal salon i bought my dress at called this weekend to see if the guys ordered their tuxes...i got so excited i thought he was calling to tell me my dress what in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it wasnt so i had him transfer me to the bridal side and they said my dress isnt in...so i am anxious too! </div>

brittandjp

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[QUOTE]Definetly call because that will keep bugging you! And as far as the dress goes well my only advice is you really just have to wait to try it on. I'm sure that once you try it on again (I mean its been 6 months) that you will remember why you bought it. I had the same feelings before I tried my dress back on. And I just tried it on again Saturday and I could sit right now and watch SYTTD and second guess it yet again. I think its just our brains playing with us.  I've seen a few pictures of you and you are thin and beautiful. (Not trying to be pretentious or toot my own horn because I don't really feel this way about myself), but as one of the consultants said to me, your are thin and beautiful, every dress will look good on you. You just have to decide which one is best for you.  <strong>My regret is that I never tried on one of those super popular dresses </strong>that have the tight corset top with the ballgown type skirt (the ones you always see with pockets). Well that kills me. Even though I didn't like any ballgowns I tried on. Don't let others opinions or possible opinions drive your choice. No matter which dress you choose, someone will always not like it. And<strong> hopefully JPs family would have enough common courtesy not to say anything cruel to your face! </strong>Not that you want them to have thoughts in the first place, but you will truly never know. If you look beautiful and glow that is all anyone will be able to focus on. And rash decision or not a beautiful dress is a beautiful dress.
Posted by w+c3[/QUOTE]

First of all, thank you for the sweet compliments. I agree about the other dresses, I feel like maybe I should have just tried on others before choosing one. I think I tried on maybe 15 or so at my salon. Had I gone to even one more salon, maybe I wouldn't have found anything I liked more, and I would have gone back and picked my dress anyway. I just keep asking myself why I had to buy it so soon. :( I'm definitely calling tomorrow.

As for JP's family, oh my gosh, they would NEVER say anything, even if they didn't think it was good enough. I truly love his family and they're all absolutely amazing, I just want them to think the same thing about me, you know. I'm pretty sure they all love me, I've been around long enough to get close to a lot of them. I'm not going to lie though, it's my wedding and every bride wants to look gorgeous and wants everyone to think she is stunning. I just worry that with my dress they won't. You're right though, I really just need to take a freaking chill pill and wait until I try it on again. I did get a second chance shortly after I bought it, when I went to the bridal expo. My FMIL cried, but I didn't either time; I always thought I would.

Side note, I truly only had a random moment/thought where I'd freak out about the wedding being 4 and then 3 months away. However, now I'm just about to the two and a half month mark and there's no denying it, <span style="font-weight:bold;">I am freaking out</span>, like big time. It's sooo soon and not everything is ready. Oh my gosh, anxiety is in full force.

w+c3

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Dress Panic : Side note, I truly only had a random moment/thought where I'd freak out about the wedding being 4 and then 3 months away. <strong>However, now I'm just about to the two and a half month mark and there's no denying it, I am freaking out , like big time. It's sooo soon and not everything is ready. Oh my gosh, anxiety is in full force.
</strong>Posted by brittandjp[/QUOTE]

The stress for me the past week or two has been horrible! I have an autoimmune disorder called Crohn's Disease, and basically my body mistakes some foods as like a foreign body and causes an inflammatory response when I ingest it. It is also highly connected and aggrivated by stress. I have been so lucky to be able to keep it under control during earlier planning and nursing school but i'm hitting all around stress lately and I'm so worried I'm going to have a flare by Christmas! Lord help me. I need to destress! I can already feel tenderness in my abdomen which is a sign. 

This is just getting to like crunch time. And it seems like when a problem occurs the time limit just aggrivates anxiety. And crap just can't go right!!! I'm ready to give up my perfectionism and high dreams and just say what the hell! Holy crap weddings are stressful!

arrestclementine

Just because i have a horrible memory....What does your dress look like again??

Well I kind of like the simpler dresses sometimes just because it looks like YOU are wearing the dress and the dress isn't wearing you.  YOu know what i mean? 

It's kind of sad that the dress seems like it s harder to make a commitment to than the guy!   

Siglers0412

Oh my gosh, I have had the same feelings.  I bought my dress spur of the moment at the first store too. I have found a lot of dresses that I love after the fact, but there was something that brought you to that dress in the first place and JP will think you look amazing, I'm sure!
Try not to let it get to you.  I've been telling myself "I bought a beautiful dress, the money is spent, the wedding is planned, no going back!" I think it's important for you to try it on so that you can have the reassurance that you bought the right dress.  If you think it's too plain, trying it on wil lgive you the chance to decide where you can add something to it to make it what you want.  I think it will all work out.   Keep us posted!