While we're on this topic...... I know it is customary that only people invited to the wedding are to be invited to the bridal shower.... however, two of my FSILs threw a fit when they found out kids were not invited to our wedding. FI has four nieces.. one is 18 (she's invited to the wedding) and the others are 10, 3.5, and 1.5. Does this seem like a good time to "break the rule" and invite the younger nieces to the shower so that they can feel included in some part of the wedding? Besides the fact that it's sort of against the rules (note that my FILs are NOT people that are big on etiquette..) FI also has two nephews (9 and 4.5) so I don't know if somehow they'd feel left out.
So I'm too lazy to set up a poll, but I supposed my options are to
1) Invite the nieces
2) Don't invite the nieces
3) Ask the FSILs during the holidays if they'd like to bring the girls to the shower. (aka put the ball in their court)
FYI- I don't even know if it's an actual option to invite all the nieces AND nephews considering it's a traditional shower with just women but even if it is an option, I wouldn't go with it