Two weeks ago my FI proposed. Since then everyone has been thrilled about us getting married, and they have been a bit pushy, even my FI. Everyone wants us to get married next July. But I want to be a healthier wieght when we get married. I want to look good in my photos, and I don't think I look good in photos in my current weight. I can't fit the dresses on the rack now at my size. Even David's Bridal's plus size will not fit me.
But no one shares these worries with me. My FI would marry me at 100 to 400 pounds. Everyone else says things like "Oh don't talk about yourself like that. You are beautiful." And I do feel beautiful. When I look in the mirror I feel beautiful, but in photos, I look so fat, so ugly. It's just so hard to get a flattering photo, I am not very photogenic by nature. I want to look back at those photos and feel good about it. I don't want to look back and think "If only I waited a year."
Less than ten months is not enough time to lose weight at any healthy rate. Even if I lose a two pound per week that is only 58 pounds, and that is not enough to fit into the largest size I have found. I don't want to lose a dramatic amount, because even at my lowest weight I was a 16, and I love being that size, and I felt great. I feel I need a year before the big wedding stuff hits to lose weight and just enjoy being engaged.
Has anyone had this experience? Does anyone know how I can get our families and my FI to let me take my time? Money, resources, people getting time off, is a moot point because people are throwing themselves at idea of us getting married in July.