just one of those days Not wedding vent

elishanb

The FI and I had a fight last night. Actually I just got yelled at. and I feel bad about it. I've had a pretty rough couple of months what with the surgery and then with my hours getting cut at work so I've been kind of low. I know that it has seriously reflected on things at home between the FI and I.So last night I got home (he went out with some people from work, and I met a girl friend for a bite to eat) he went off on me about how I hadn't been helping out around teh house lately and just on and on and on.I feel bad cause I know he's right. but sometimes don't you just feel bummed enough not to want to vaccum? Anyway I know this has to be the most boring post ever I just wanted to get it off my chest since I woke up feeling bummed about the fight last night and then work today totally blew. I'm glad today is over. I hope you ladies all have a lovely weekend. I'm going to go clean my bathroom or something...

npales

I get this everytime E is mad about something else. He's usually right, I hate cleaning or keeping house, but I try to be better for his sake. It happens, you'll be fine, just try to do some nice things for him around the house to show that you care about him. That's usually all it takes.but sometimes don't you just feel bummed enough not to want to vaccum?I never want to clean. No matter how happy or how sad/stressed I am. I only want to clean when we have company over.

marburs

don't you just feel bummed enough not to want to vaccum? no, this never happens to me.j/k of course it happens to all of us! I got so down about a stupid book the other day that I've been in a funk all week.You need to cheer up. Read a long romance novel with lots of siiix in it. Go cuddle with your fi and apologize, and hopefully he'll apologize and just take a breather.thats must best advice. but dont feel too guilty, everyone gets meloncholy from time to time. buck up kiddo

McBridetobe

Aw, don't be so hard on yourself!  You were recovering and it is perfectly fine to take a break from the housework.  And you are welcome to vent here anytime.  It is so helpful. 

elishanb

Thanks ladies. it is nice to vent to someone. multiple someones all at one time. and I really didn't think many of you out there ever really did get excited to vaccum strangely enough I think he does. my plan is to pick up some beer and order a pizza (it's WAY better than trying to watch me cook) and try to snuggle up and apologize. I think we have a few episodes on Weeds to catch up on. I think it just needs to blow over a little  

marburs

good plan!  Have a good time!  Hope you feel better when we 'see' you again on Monday!

KimWard

Aww, I'm late, but I hope you have great weekend with FI and start to cheer up soon!

jennybean2010

i'm super late to post-but i've had the same fight with FI...several times. he'll even "test" me by reducing how much he cleans/picks up, just to see if i'll pick up the slack (which, i never do). it's easier for me to do some of it, now that i'm not working and home all day (i just make sure the hour before he gets home i straighten up the kitchen..that typically is enough to make him convinced i didn't sit and do nothing all day)...but when i am working, it rarely happens. and then we fight. i hate cleaning, with a passion. i'll straighten up, but full fledge clean....not unless someone is coming to the house usually. i know i suck at it, i hope i get better at it some day. in the meantime.....i totally get where you're coming from. the beer & pizza should have worked wonderfully for you though-i've had that same approach. works like a charm.

elishanb

yea he "tested me" to see if I'd do te dishes and vaccum. I think those kind of tests make him look more like an a$$  than anything alse buit I let him just yell about it cause it made him feel better about it all. the beer and pizza worked just fine and cleaning the bathroom floor sealed his happiness  

daveys_baby

I'm sorry he yelled at you :-\  I also get into a funk and don't feel like doing house work, but then sometimes I'll turn on music and just do as much of it as I possibly can to make up for daily stuff I don't do.  It's the daily stuff I think is hard, and after working all day you're entitled to a little R&R.