Gotta love awkward family situations. So my uncle is recently divorced. His ex had a son from a previous marriage that he had a large part in raising (married for 17 years and he is 24). They also have two kids together (19 and 17 by the wedding). My original intent was to invite my uncle and my two cousins by sending an invite to my uncle saying "Uncle and Family." My mom insists I invite my stepcousin (ex-step cousin I guess) since he was my cousin most my life though we aren't close and don't talk. I could be okay with that, whatever. But, now my uncle will be on deployment from before I send invites until after the wedding and having his mail held so I will have to send the invite to my cousins at my ex-aunt's place (she isn't welcome at the wedding b/c she's a psycho and has done awful things to my uncle).
Perfect etiquette isn't required but how the heck do I address this envelope!? And, just because my uncle is on deployment, I feel like I should still include him on the invite even though I know he's not coming. I don't want to put "and Family" to my aunt's address because this may be confusing that she is included. Also, we aren't doing inner envelopes so I have to do it all on the outer. It's kind of a pain and a waste of money but do I just send each "kid" their own invite and one to my uncle so he just has it (though being a man and that he'll have 6 months of mail to go thru I'm sure it'll just be trashed)?
Can't we all just get along?
