NWR: FI got a job offer..*vent*

AshnRobo

So, my FI just got a job offer that would take him across the country. Since I don't have a job offer, and we are paying for the wedding ourselves we can't have me jobless for any amount of time and still get this paid for. So, he is moving a month, and I will remain here until after the wedding.

While I'm glad he has this job offer and it is his dream job, the timing sucks. I'm going to miss him, and I'm worried b/c he said our honeymoon would be me moving there.

It may be totally bratty, but I want the honeymoon we planned and finished planning last night. I, in no way, think that moving is even remotely on the same page as moving. Nothing about that seems appealing. In fact, I freaking hate the idea of skipping the honeymoon to move. Ugh.

jessa1228

Have you already booked the HM, or you just finalized what you were doing? If it's the latter, at least you aren't out any money.

I'll be honest with you - I wish I could say I'm sympathetic, but I would love to be in your position right now. My FI has been applying to jobs all over the country, and it's a very real possibility that he'll have to move hundreds, if not thousands, of miles away right before our wedding (I'd stay here until afterwards). I know you're just venting, I totally get that. I'd be bummed too if I had to forego my HM. But it's for something that will benefit you both in the long term, so try to keep that in mind.

morenachica110

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[QUOTE]So, my FI just got a job offer that would take him across the country. Since I don't have a job offer, and we are paying for the wedding ourselves we can't have me jobless for any amount of time and still get this paid for. So, he is moving a month, and I will remain here until after the wedding. While I'm glad he has this job offer and it is his dream job, the timing sucks. I'm going to miss him, and I'm worried b/c he said our honeymoon would be me moving there. It may be totally bratty, but I want the honeymoon we planned and finished planning last night. I, in no way, think that moving is even remotely on the same page as moving. Nothing about that seems appealing. In fact, I freaking hate the idea of skipping the honeymoon to move. Ugh.
Posted by AshnRobo[/QUOTE]

<div>That completely sucks. Would you guys be able to do a small HM more local-ish and save the one you just planned for maybe your first anniversary? Like PP said, definitely be thankful he has a job but I totally understand where you're coming from. I'd also let FI know that you want something more special than moving for the HM even if its just a few days away at a B&B local.</div>

CowgirlK39

I hear ya girl. I may possibly have to take a job across the state (if I get it) and then we would defininitely have to cancel any thought of a HM. Its hard and I don't think you should consider the move to be your HM. But as PP's said, you gotta do whats best for the two of you and your future. Sadly, beggars can't be choosers when it comes to jobs these days. *hugs*

volleygurl0306

I agree with PP that sometimes it is hard to be grateful for those jobs, but you have to see the light in that.  But, I would tell your FI flat out, moving is NOT a HM.  Not to be a brat and insist you still have one as planned (moving is very expensive...we had to postpone our wedding because of two expensive moves) but to show him that he isn't getting off that easy!  Tell him his new job goal is to save enough to go on your actually HM by your 1 year anniversary.  And the second you get the funds, I suggest you plan it.  I've known a few couples who said they'd do their HM "later" because they couldn't right after the wedding.  One in particular is about to celebrate their 3 year anniversary and still hasn't even mentioned going on it.  So pick a specific time in mind that is financially realistic so you do get that special trip every couple deserves without causing added stress to the move.

BMcLeodTeam

I agree that kinda sucks. As PP said what about something local? I know that a friend of mine stayed at a hotel less than 2 hours away from her new house as they moved 3 provinces away during what would have been their honeymoon. It was still somewhere new so it was totally still a honeymoon...

danigirl7181

I'm sorry that sucks. We decided to cancel our honeymoon too, due to buying a house in the next couple of months. We were only planning a small trip to Chicago but it would still cost us money that we may need to put into a hosue. After the wedding we are going to put money away and save up to go to Hawaii. It will probably be about 5-7 years before we actually make it to Hawaii because we plan to TTC #2 right after the wedding. 

I'm sad we won't be able to go on a HM but then again I'm super excited to buy a home for our family.