addressing invites to families

Sarah-Jean

My fiance's aunt & uncle have three children who are 15, 18, and 20. We are inviting them all, but not letting the cousins bring dates to help keep the number down (none are in relationships). Is it wrong to address the invite to the whole family, or since they are older, is it proper to send one to his aunt & uncle, and one to each cousin? They all live together so I'm hoping it's ok to just address it to the family. Please help!

squirrly

One to each guest/couple over 18.  So, one to your aunt & uncle and the 15 y/o, and then one to the 18 y/o, and one to the 20 y/o. 

LaurenRaschelle

It may not be correct but I was told by my mother in law to just send them one, a similar situation on his side. I plan on doing it with my family too. Only cousins that live on their own are getting one. The ones that live at home would not care. It would double my invites if I didn't!

banana468

It doesn't matter if it's more invitations.

Adults get their own invitation.  Period. 

squirrly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_addressing-invites-families?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:00dbd07d-dc84-44ed-a99b-f322d2124203Post:f2663158-be18-4cf0-95c5-b287950d29f8">Re: addressing invites to families</a>:
[QUOTE]It may not be correct but I was told by my mother in law to just send them one, a similar situation on his side. I plan on doing it with my family too. Only cousins that live on their own are getting one. The ones that live at home would not care. It would double my invites if I didn't!
Posted by LaurenRaschelle[/QUOTE]

If your FMIL told you to throw champagne on your grandmother at the reception, would you do it?  They're both bad etiquette.