Outer envelopes only!

DaniC26

Hi! I have a couple questions and would love more opinions please.

We are having the outer envelope only - no RSVP card, no inner. One spot to convey who we want to come. We are going the Mr. and Mrs. John Smith route.

1) How do I indicate that the whole family is invited? Do I put "and family", or do I list the names below?

2) Can I put "and guest"? I have some people who they don't even know who they are bringing, so I can't find out and put the name on.

3) I also have some guests that I have no clue. An unmarried couple with two kids? How does that one go?

Thanks so much.

saisongbird

Stupid question time - how is everyone supposed to RSVP?  Website?  Phone number?

To attempt to answer your questions:

1) I believe you would put "and family" on the invite.  I could be wrong though.

2) You can put "and guest."

3) No idea.  Page the mod - she's awesome.

DaniC26

Oops, forgot to mention that. It's a phone or email RSVP.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]Hi! I have a couple questions and would love more opinions please. We are having the outer envelope only - no RSVP card, no inner. One spot to convey who we want to come. We are going the Mr. and Mrs. John Smith route. 1) How do I indicate that the whole family is invited? Do I put "and family", or do I list the names below? 2) Can I put "and guest"? I have some people who they don't even know who they are bringing, so I can't find out and put the name on. 3) I also have some guests that I have no clue. An unmarried couple with two kids? How does that one go? Thanks so much.
Posted by DaniC26[/QUOTE]

When you're only using outer envelopes, you need to address it specifically to those invited.  I prefer not to use "& Family" because what if they have other family that stays with them or will be in town, and they assume those extras are invited?

What I did was:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Susie and Tommy
Address

If you don't know the guest's name and they don't know who they plan to bring, you can use "and Guest" or you can address it to the person you do know and then include a handwritten note that says they are invited to bring a guest and to please let you know the guest's name when they RSVP.

Unmarried couples usually go on two lines like this:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Address

to add kids, just add the kids name after the parents names, before the address.

squirrly

1) How do I indicate that the whole family is invited? Do I put "and family", or do I list the names below?  Don't put "and family".  Some people will mistakenly believe that includes great aunt mildred who lives 5 hours away.  "But, but, she's FAMILY!" 

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
James and Kaitlyn Smith
123 Sesame Street
City, State  ZIP

2) Can I put "and guest"? I have some people who they don't even know who they are bringing, so I can't find out and put the name on.   You can.  The most proper thing to do is enclose a handwritten note on a matching card, approx the size of the RSVP card, that says they may bring a guest.  If you write it on the envelope, though, it's like this;

Mr. John Smith
Guest
123 Sesame Street
City, State ZIP

3) I also have some guests that I have no clue. An unmarried couple with two kids? How does that one go? 

Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith
James and Kaitlyn Smith
123 Sesame Street
City, State ZIP