Invitations

owenssl90

My fiance and I are trying to get our guest list finalized. After talking with my future mother-in-law, she told me that there are certain guests that she only wants to invite to the ceremony. How do I go about sending invitations for this? What is the proper etiquette? I just do not know! Help!

ElisabethJoanne

You can't just invite people to the ceremony. It's rude. [Yes, a reversal of what you'll read in etiquette books from 50 years ago.]

So, problem solved! Invite these people like everyone else. If you can't afford them or don't have space, work out a compromise.

LeiselEB

Proper etiquette would say that this is NOT acceptable.

You need to tell your future mother in law that you think it's rude to invite someone to only part of the wedding. If you can accommodate these people at the reception, that's fine. But it's really rude to invite them only to the ceremony.

AurorasEnvy

Yeah, I agree.  If they aren't important enough to be invited to the reception, why would she even want them at the ceremony in the first place?  I'd try and figure out what her reasoning is.

cabates1

I would agree.  If someone is invited to the ceremony they should be invited to the reception.  It does make it hard to keep costs down, but hopefully she will understand you have a budget (or even reception hall size) to work within.

owenssl90

Thanks! I agree with what you all say, I just didn't know how to approach it with my mother-in-law. My mom agrees as well, so I have asked her to look at it again and decide who she really wants to be there and who she doesn't want to be there. Thanks again!