Gift registries on 2nd enclosure card?

ccannady2

I will be ordering my invitations soon.  I *thought* about including a 2nd enclosure card with our gift registries listed for all of the folks who are not invited to showers.  Is that against wedding etiquette?  

We are having a large wedding...250ish...and their are a decent number of people who won't be coming to showers.  My best friend just got married, and I was shocked by all the people who seemed to completely ignore her registry.  While I know a registry is far from fool-proof, I'd like to decrease the chance of getting large amounts of unwanted junk.

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MairePoppy

Never include registry information or any mention of gifts in wedding invitiations. If anyone wants to know where you are registered, they will ask. No one is required to buy items from your registry.

MyNameIsNot

It is rude to mention anything about registries in your invitation.

If people want to know, they'll ask.  If they don't like registries, putting it in their face isn't going to make them like it any more.

cukimerrydoll

I feel the same as PPs.

Honestly, I've gone off-registry before... not on purpose, because I forgot about the registries.  But the last wedding I went to where I went "off-registry" we bought them a date night.  We went to a local eatery and movie theater for gift cards. 

Their dad said they loved it.  So, that's my standard for "off-registry" gifts.  Not a thing, but an event - something to do when you aren't at home.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

1. People know how registries work. They've been around for decades. You don't need to include it because you assume they're not smart enough to figure it out. That's a cop-out excuse. And frankly, some people might spite you by going off registry because of it.

2. Since when is a heartfelt gift to you supposedly because you are starting a new life together, from one of your friends or relatives, "useless junk"? I'm sure they'd be happy that you see them as only a means to get things on your pre-approved list of appliances and towels.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I will be ordering my invitations soon.  I *thought* about including a 2nd enclosure card with our gift registries listed for all of the folks who are not invited to showers.  Is that against wedding etiquette?   We are having a large wedding...250ish...and their are a decent number of people who won't be coming to showers.  My best friend just got married, and I was shocked by all the people who seemed to completely ignore her registry.  While I know a registry is far from fool-proof, I'd like to decrease the chance of getting large amounts of unwanted junk. [url=http:// <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers">www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers</a> ][img] <a rel="nofollow" href="http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt5403f.aspx">http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt5403f.aspx</a> [/img][/url]
Posted by ccannady2[/QUOTE]

DItto others.  Invitations are never the place for mentioning gifts.   I hope your outlook of your guests' generosity changes before the wedding.  Referring to potential gifts as "unwanted junk" comes across as extremely ungrateful.

aerinpegadrak

Well, if they're invited to any showers that are thrown for you (by others, you never plan your own shower), then they'll receive a separate invitation to that, on which registry information is often included (since the shower is explicitly a gift-giving party, it's not rude to assume that guests will bring gifts).

I believe it's acceptable to include your registry information on your wedding website, especially if you're registered at non-standard places.  But beyond that, you should just leave it off.

banana468

NOOOOOO!

Don't do it.  You may increase the # of people who don't use your registry that way.

Instead, just trust that they'll know how registries work and if they don't, they'll ask.

SarahPLiz

I agree with PPs. Try working on being a gracious recipient and recognizing that the giver has put some thought into what they are giving you. You may not like it, but you can always return it or Ebay it after you write the Thnk You note.  

squirrly

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[QUOTE]NOOOOOO! Don't do it.  You may increase the # of people who don't use your registry that way. Instead, just trust that they'll know how registries work and if they don't, they'll ask.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

Ditto the wise banana.  Absolutely no good can come from putting registry info in your invitation.  None.

SaraAndrew2010

Definitely don't include the registry info with the invitation.

Put the registry info on your website. You can include an enclosure card that says something like, "For directions, accomodations, and more information please visit our wedding website at www.yoursite.com&quot;. That way you point people in the direction of where they can find your registry info without coming right out and saying it.