Wedding Invitations & Paper

How are you wording invitations if your paying for it yourself?

My Fiancé & I are paying for the wedding ourselves. If your in the same situation how are you wording your invitations? I wanted a something not so formal but still nice.


I also have a daughter from a previous marriage. I was kind of thinking of including her name in the invitation. Just not sure how...


**And before anyone comments that this is a marriage of me & my finance only and kids should not be included - Please Stop, because we both strongly believe that this is a union of the 3 of us. We are becoming a family, we are also making a commitment to her to be a family just as much as each other**

Thank you!!

Re: How are you wording invitations if your paying for it yourself?

  • CMGr is right.

    I know you view your wedding as a uniting of families, but even so, the invitation isn't the place to showcase that. The invite is literally just a way to get information to your guests about the where and when of the wedding.

    Including something in the program, or having your daughter participate in a dance or in the ceremony somehow would be a better alternative.
  • You could say something about uniting families but I don't know if that would sound right if he doesn't have children too.
  • We are including our children on our invites. There are actually some good sites for verbiage. But, here is our language:

    Because you have shared in our lives with love,

    XXX

    & XXXX 

    along with
    Dalton, Madelyn & Jessica
    invite you to witness
    our beautiful beginnings.


  • jilliebean - I think that's beautiful... I Was thinking something more generic about families, but that doesn't name the daughter specifically.  I totally understand the traditional route only names the people actually hosting the event, but everyone's situation is different, and if listing her daughter on the invitation makes this particular family feel good, then why not?!?  Personally, if I got this invitation, I would think it was lovely, and would think it was so nice that the child was included.  I'm sure many of OPs friends and family will react the same way.
  • I say screw all the formalities. I am assuming your families know your situation, so you can be formal, without following archaic etiquette to a T. I really like jilliebean's suggestion. I don't know how far-fetched this is, but you can also have it as her presenting you to be married..."Miss Name invites you to witness the marriage of her mother to X"

    I am sure that your daughter's presence will not be a surprise to anyone at the wedding, so do what you want! 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_how-are-you-wording-invitations-if-your-paying-for-it-yourself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:263bcf9e-30af-464d-892c-aaeeac945206Post:63fa9fca-a6a4-4817-902f-c41919014115">Re: How are you wording invitations if your paying for it yourself?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We are including our children on our invites. There are actually some good sites for verbiage. But, here is our language: Because you have shared in our lives with love, XXX & XXXX  along with Dalton, Madelyn & Jessica invite you to witness our beautiful beginnings.
    Posted by thejilliebean[/QUOTE]


    Thank you so much. I have seen it say "Along with their children XXX & YYY invite you..." But he doesn't have kids. And I cant say their child bc she's not his child technically.
  • Thank you for all those who had encouraging words and suggestions...
  • sojoyfulsojoyful member
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    edited February 2012
    [QUOTE]Your child should not be on your invitation.  It is not an honor to be on the invitation.  The invitation is a simple message from the hosts (yourselves) to the guests giving the important information about the event.  A child cannot host a wedding.[/QUOTE]

    I respectfully disagree with this harsh advice.  Why CAN'T a child host?  I think it'd be adorable, especially if that's the tone the couple sets for their ceremony.  It would be very cute to see an invitation with something like "XX and XY, with the blessing of Ms. xx, invite you to share the joy of their wedding day."

    I've seen invitations written all sorts of ways.  I've even seen them with several people (even pets!) listed, and with no one hosting, i.e. "You are invited to the wedding of XX and XY."  So if I were you I would disregard the "shoulds" and "should nots" and do whatever you please.  It's your wedding.  The people who are close to you will love you and not mind one bit.  The people who do mind...well, why are you inviting them to your wedding anyway?  :)
  • We don't have children, but went with the following:

    Ms. Bride Name
    and
    Mr. Groom Name

    request the honor of your presence
    at their marriage

    Friday, the Day of Month
    year
    at six o'clock in the evening


    We took the strictly formal route because it works for us. We're getting married in a church, hosting it ourselves and feel very honored by our guests taking time from their lives to witness our vows. 

    I see no problem with including all members of the family on the invite. I see no reason why a child can't participate in hosting an event. 

    Perhaps something like:

    Bride
    and 
    Groom

    along with Miss Daughter

    request the honor of your presence (etc, etc)

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