i'm getting a headache :P addressing:

MrsBeeGee2B

ok, so i have a couple of "how do i" questions re: addressing guests.

1)  i'm doing Mr. And Mrs John Doe   (gosh, is that even right!?) 

2)  a few friends that i am close to....females....and i am inviting their S.O.'s...is it my friend first or the guy a\lways first?  Ms. My female friend & Mr.Her S.o. name?

3) my aunt is widowed, do i put her: Mrs. her first name/ last night

4) i have a few adult (20's) cousins that still live at home...there are 3 of them in one house LOL...do i really (  ) have to send all of those stinking cousins a seperate invite!?  (i knjow i know, i just hate wasting all the friggin postage hahah) 

lamoeller

I'm no expert, but I've had all your questions and did my research already, so here are my two cents:

1) Mr. & Mrs. John Doe is correct -- you don't want to separate the man from his last name.

2) not sure on this one -- do they live together?  Or are they just dating?  If just dating, I think you just do her and guest, even if you know full well what his name is.  My source said "Think about it like this -- if they broke up between now and your wedding, would he still be invited?  If you put his name on the invite, he is."

3) She is still a Mrs. Jane Doe even if her husband has passed away.

4) Technically, yes, any children />18 should get their own invite, no matter where they are living.  However, at $1 an invite for the postage & another $2-3 per invite, I feel you there!  Especially if you are not giving them all a +1.

itzMS

1. Yes
2. Ms Ashley Smith
    Mr Matthew Johnson
    123 Main Street (her address)
    Anytown, USA 54321
3. I did Ms. Jane Doe
4. Yes, everyone 18 & up gets his or her own invitation regardless of address.

Jager1219

In regards to #2.  ItzMs has the format correct.  I like including the name of the guest because it feels more personal (regardless of who the SO is).  If they break-up, the invitation is nontransferrable, so your friend wouldn't get a new date.  Clearly the broken-up SO isn't going to show up.  I would send the invitation to the residence of your friend.

The rule as I've been told is that it's ladies first.  However, if they do not live together and you're friends with the guy, you should put the guy's name first.  Othewise, the first name on the invite is to someone who doesn't live at that address and you may have delivery issues.