People assuming they can bring a guest

kblackman1

We are starting to get some replies back...and we've had several of fiance's fraternity brothers indicate that 2 guests are coming...even though the invite was only addressed to one. I guess they are assuming that "and guest" was an option...but it's not, and since we didn't put "and guest" on the invites, I'm not sure why they would think that. How do we handle those guests that assume they can bring a guest? We were very careful to include significant others and make sure that everyone would know enough people to be comfortable, but we don't have the money or venue capacity to add people that we don't even know! These people are our friends, so I don't want to offend or cause any hurt feelings. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

squirrly

Just call them  & let them know that you're so looking forward to seeing them, but won't be able to accomodate their date.  Say something sorta like this:

"John, thanks so much for sending your reply back!  We're really excited about seeing you at the wedding.  Unfortunately, we won't be able to accomodate Lisa at the wedding - there's just no room left on the guest list.  However, I'm sure you'll have a blast - we've got you at a table with Chris & Dave.  We'd love to get together with you and Lisa another time, though!"

So long as she's not a serious SO, you're in the clear and he's in the wrong. 

Zooloo

Just call and be tactfully straight forward.