Do you send invitations to ppl you know can't come?

mandctaft

I have an aunt in FL and we live in PA. She is going to have classes all next summer so she can finish up her degree the following spring. She won't have the time to drive up from FL and it's financially not a possibility to fly 4 of them.

This isn't the only one. We have about 5 others we KNOW can't be there.

Should I send the invite anyway? I want them to be there, but I don't want them to feel obligated or hurt because I sent them the inv.

Any suggestions?

PS. If I invite them, I'll plan on them coming. Just don't want it to look like I wouldn't plan for them.

AurorasEnvy

I'd still send it.  You never know what might change, and they might be offended and think that they were never actually invited without an invite.

ShakeUpTampa

Send. I sent a few to Sweden (My favorite cousin can't come as she is a teacher but will visit me two months later)....we sent to a lot of out of state. Leave it up to them to decline or accept.

maccor16

I  would still send them. My FI cousin that he is close to is in CA and we don't think she'll make it but we are sending one anyway.

Avion22

We are in the same situation.  We are going to send invitations to people we don't think will come, because we want them to know that they ARE invited if they want to come, or change their minds, or whatever.   They are elderly family memberts, and we think they might be offended if they are the only ones not invited, and of course we DO want them there if they can make it.

bbyprincesss

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[QUOTE]We are in the same situation.  We are going to send invitations to people we don't think will come, because we want them to know that they ARE invited if they want to come, or change their minds, or whatever.   They are elderly family memberts, and we think they might be offended if they are the only ones not invited, and of course we DO want them there if they can make it.
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

Exactly! And who knows maybe they would come, or send a gift or something :)

poison+kisses

Send them anyway. If you don't send them an invite, they might misinterpret it as you not wanting them to be there. I've got family in the Netherlands that I know won't be able to come, but I'm going to send them an invite anyway so they know I thought of them.

TiffannieF

I would send them.  We also had people who we knew wouldn't come but we had 2 groups, people who would be hurt if we didn't send them an invitation and people would probably like to know that we got married but wouldn't be offended if we didn't send an invitation.  So we sent invitations to the first group and announcements to the second group.