Invitation Wording when Groom's Parents are Divorced

jmaurer40

My parents would like to recognize my fiance's parents on the invitation. However, my fiance's dad is recently remarried (within the past year). We weren't sure if we had to name his stepmom AND biological mom on the invite, or if we should just include his mom since his dad hasn't been married for very long. For example, would the wording be:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
and
Ms. Jane Doe

OR just

Mr. John Smith
and
Ms. Jane Doe

Your help is very much appreciated as we don't want to offend anyone!

SaraAndrew2010

Step-parents don't usually go on the invitation. 

angiereic

My fiance and I are dealing with a similar problem.  His dad has been married to his stepmom for a while now though.  We're solving it by putting all names into the invite, but placing his mom's name first then his dad and stepmom. Although his dad is just recently remarried I think by not saying at least Mr. and Mrs. John Smith you risk offending his dad.  Our invitations are probably going to read something like this: Mr. & Mrs. John Doe

              together with

              Mrs. Jane Smith

              Mr. and Mrs. Jim Smith

              request the honor of your presence...

I hope this kind of helps.

psichick

i wouldn't put the step mom on the invitation since she hasn't been a big part of his life i would guess. if she has been, then that's a different story.

jkm26

Thanks for the responses! I guess part of me wonders if we should include the step-mom because I think the larger part of our rehearsal dinner is being paid for by her (and not the groom's father). I'm not sure if that makes a difference or not!

squirrly

Traditionally, step parents are not included on the invitation.  They can be easily included in the wedding program.  Also, if they are hosting the RD, you can do separate invites for that which note that they are the host, and you can thank them AT the RD as well.

bloomies1976

I have the same question. My parents are divorced, my mom and dad both are contributing relatively the same amount of money but I kind of feel like my dads money might be coming from my step mother. My mom is completely offended that I even thought of mentioning my step mother because she is not my mom. YIKES I really dont want to offend anyone and my mom means the world to me but my dad does too and i dont want him to have hurt feelings or hurt my step mothers feelings either. HELP!