My mom is paying for the majority of my wedding. When we were first planning (and I was so excited about wedding stuff) my mom said we should definitely invite cousin Shellie. So, I figured, if I am inviting cousin Shellie, (who is actually my DAD's cousin) then I have to invite her 3 siblings and their spouses. After my mom said I should invite them, I proceeded to ask Shellie for all their addresses and talk with her about wedding stuff. Then, after all that, my mom and my grandma (my dad's mom, and Shellie's aunt) says we should just not invite any 2nd cousins, only great uncles/aunts (to save money.)
but, this is after I have already discussed it with her. I can't just not invite her after already talking with her about it, can I? Also, I'm the closest to her out of her 3 siblings. I can't invite her, and not them, and then also invite her parents, right? UGH! The other 3 I have barely even seen.