Invite Wording! I need HELP!

Jessy1021

My fiance and I are having a disagreement over the wording of our invitations. Since my parents are technically paying for the reception only, I believe the traditional wording should be used.

"Mr. and Mrs Dadlast request the honour of your presence at the marrige of their daughter, soandso to Micchalelast son of Groomsparents"

However, my fiance believes wholeheartidly that this is a "diss" to his parents as they are contributing a lot to the wedding as well. They are contributing quite a bit, but technically my parents are paying for the entire reception and his parents are giving us money to pay for other things, and part of our honeymoon.

I asked his sister and his mom and they didn't think this was wrong at all. They think the traditional wording that I want to use is perfectly fine, but he is still set on having his parents listed as hosts as well (even though they don't care) He also says that parts of our wedding are not traditional so why should this be? He is really being a stickler about it and it is aggravating me to no end trying to find a way to word it that pleases my parents, as well as having his parents listed as more than the parents of him.
HELP! yes my fiance is a bit of a control freak and groomzilla!

JanoBean75

wow. your sig is huge.

You could do (no "and" or other text between the sets of parents' names as it is not necesary AND takes the emphasis off the bride and groom):

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
request the honour of your presence
at the marrige of their children
Bride
to
Groom
etc.

Of course, some people read that as either kids are getting married or SIBLINGS are getting married. Your example in your first post is best.

squirrly

I kind of agree with your FI - and it doesn't matter what they're paying.  They raised him.  That's a pretty huge contribution to the wedding - the groom is required! 

A couple of thoughts - do not put AND between the rows of parents names.  Just omit it.  And indicates that they go together, and there is no social connection between your parents and his (unless they live in some sort of communal society where they're all married to each other). 

Remember - paying=/=hosting, and the names at the top of the invite merely indicate who the hosts are. 

To the poster who mentioned donation favors with a tag on who made the donation - bad news all the way around.  Donation favors are pretty crappy, in my opinion, and AWing who made the donation is even worse.  Please do NOT do that.

And OP - your sig is ENORMOUS.  Please fix that.  It takes over my whole screen.

eeetea

in response to Squirrly -
Remember - paying=/=hosting, and the names at the top of the invite merely indicate who the hosts are.

i'm a little confused.  so what about the following -- between my FI & I we have only 1 living parent between us - my dad, who along with his wife are paying for most of our wedding.  They gave us a lump sum as a gift for us to spend as we see fit,  They are not interested in being actively involved in any of the planning, we are doing ALL of the legwork ourselves.  Most of what they gave us will go towards the venue. If flowers, photog, hair/mu, invites, etc. put us over, as appears likely to be the case, we'll have to cut back or kick in the balance.  RSVPs will be to me, the bride.  So, under this scenario, who is "hosting"?  Does dad & his wife still get sole/top billing on the invite?

squirrly

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[QUOTE]in response to Squirrly - Remember - paying=/=hosting, and the names at the top of the invite merely indicate who the hosts are. i'm a little confused.  so what about the following -- between my FI & I we have only 1 living parent between us - my dad, who along with his wife are paying for most of our wedding.  They gave us a lump sum as a gift for us to spend as we see fit,  They are not interested in being actively involved in any of the planning, we are doing ALL of the legwork ourselves.  Most of what they gave us will go towards the venue. If flowers, photog, hair/mu, invites, etc. put us over, as appears likely to be the case, we'll have to cut back or kick in the balance.  RSVPs will be to me, the bride.  So, under this scenario, who is "hosting"?  Does dad & his wife still get sole/top billing on the invite?
Posted by eeetea[/QUOTE]

It sounds to me like you and your FI are hosting the wedding.  I'd talk to your dad and make sure whether he wants to be listed as the host, but it really sounds like he's best listed in the program as your father and that's it.

eeetea

squirrly - thanks for your reply - hosting =/= paying.  tried clicking on "private message"...thought that was how I might follow up with you off the board but I can't seem to figure out how that works it doesn't work for me.  ???

squirrly

If you click on the words " Private Message" below my post, it will let you send me one.  If you use the link on the left, it's to your inbox.  My knot only email is squirrly103 at gmail dot com, if you can't make the PM tool work.  (My email is also on the home page of my bio, if you forget it or can't find this post.)  I prefer PM, but email is ok.