"and Guest" on Save the Dates?? (Poll)

LindsMullinix

Hi Everyone - are you/did you put "and Guest" on your save the dates to those guests that are able to bring a guest?  Or does this only get included in the invitation?  Thanks in advance!!

squirrly

You should really, really, really put it out there up front if you KNOW you will be able to offer them a guest invite, particularly if they need to travel.  If they're local it's not as crucial.  If you're unsure, you should avoid it, as you would have to abide by that once it goes in the mailbox.

MyNameIsNot

Most of our guests were OOT, so we did include it.  I wanted them to be able to make arrangements for their dates as well.

We probably wouldn't have if they were local.  

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I sent STDs to all my OOT guests. Several have already booked travel for my wedding (in October), so I wanted them to know in advance if they could bring someone. BUT of course you can only do it if you are positive you can accommodate guests. 

SuMmErKuTiE

We did it for our Save the Dates so guests would know well enough in advance.

Karen's MOH

I did it for guests who had to travel, since I wanted them to be able to make travel arrangements accordingly.

One piece of advice-- write down who you "and guest-ed" somewhere! I didn't and while I am pretty sure I remember, I really don't want to get into a situation where I don't put it on the invite but did on the STD.

JennaV26

I didn't put "and guest" on any of my STDs (I'm sorry I hate writing that hahah) but that's because I'm still not sure about what I'm doing for my "and guest." Some of my friend's boyfriends will be invited simply because I know them but I'm not sure what to do about my friends who are in a serious, but not engaged, married, etc., Who knows? So I skipped it so I could buy myself some time!!

kindge_03

Definately put it on there. 98% of our guests are OOT, so I included "and guest"...but even if you have alot of locals, it's considerate to consider their dates for accomodations that they may need to make. --Or to let your single friends know that they have the green light to introduce their partners at the wedding.

SummerBoston10

I don't plan to include "and guests" on invitations and I didn't include them on STDs.  I included the NAME of the person's SO and did include that on the STD.  If a friend was single when I sent STDs but is now not single, I will include their SO's name on the invitation and those people already know they can bring their SO.  In my opinion, you should never use "and guest" and you should always find out the name of the guest. 

Jeni35

I would say to add "And Guest" if someone is coming from OOT. I agree that locally, waiting for the invitation time is okay. The other thing you could do if you've been keeping up to date with your friends is find out if they are in a serious relationship and that person's name. When someone is single, I do not think you have to include a guest because they are not involved with anyone. I also agree to make sure that you can have extra guests because you cannot retract once something is sent out! 

caitm730

We did not include the guest on the STD, unless it was a specific person. We will include the "and guest" on the inner envelope of the invitation.

babydi424

I did not include "and guest" on any of my save the dates, but I do see how it can be helpful for those who are OOT to make proper arrangements.
Good Luck!

peachtree3

I am making my own invites and printing them out from my computer and off of word so on SOME of the response cards, I am including a '+1' for my single friends, or coworkers where I don't know their significant other very well and figured they might want to bring a friend or date since they won't know a lot of people at the wedding.  I'm only doing this for about 15 of my guests, who most of them are all friends anyway and might just end up going with each other! 

So if you can customize it to where you don't mind some of them bringing a guest, then I would do that. 

On others, like our families with kids, I just put "# attending" on the response cards.  Then the people I am addressing specifically who I know won't be bringing anyone, I just left it blank for the response card after they mark whether or not they are attending.  So customization like that is working for me... maybe it will work for you, whatever you decide, you have a lot of help!